How to To Make Him Fall In Love With You?

Do you have a crush on a guy, but you don’t know how to make him this guy feel the same for you?

You’ve come to the right place! 

I’ll share with you many psychologically-proven ways to get through to your man and win him over.

But, before that, I would like to make one thing clear:

These tips are proven to help invoke “attraction” in someone who is at least mildly interested in you.

But invoking the feeling of love? Definitely not.

Love comes from within and while outside environment can become a catalyst it’s still not the reason why one falls in love. To put it simply, if you love somebody you just love them for no reason. Love comes with no conditions and that’s what makes it the most beautiful and the same time most dangerous things.

Dangerous, but how?

To answer this questions, I will share a part from Allan watt’s speech from movie “HER”: “Love is an act of surrender to another person. Total abandonment. I give myself to you. Take me. Do anything you like with me. See. So, that’s quite mad because you see, it’s letting things get out of control. All sensible people keep things in control.”

So, keep in mind that, I will be sharing tips that can become a catalyst to ignite those romantic feelings and not a proven “to do list” to make a man fall in love with you.

Here’s How To Make Him Fall In Love With You:

1. Do activities together that get his heart pumping

Did you know there is a direct link between fear, physical activity, and sexual attraction?

Surprisingly enough, there is and they have one thing in common: Adrenaline.

A long time ago, two psychologists conducted a study on the psychology of attraction and found out the following: 

  • Emotional arousal, such as fear, releases adrenaline into the body;
  • The presence of adrenaline in the body increases the attraction between two people;
  • There is a link between emotions and sexual attraction;

But wait, there’s more. According to another more recent study, physical activity appears to have the same effect.

What does this mean for you? 

To make this guy fall in love with you, the first great step would be to get his heart pumping. If you want to make a guy feel very attracted to you, then plan exciting dates. 

Go to an adventure park with him and try a rollercoaster ride, or watch a scary movie with him to get the same emotional response based on fear.

Or, take a cardio class together, go swimming, or even try a new physical activity together. Whatever you do, make sure his heart rate goes up and he experiences an adrenaline rush.

2. Give him the right compliments

The next psychologically-proven way to win his heart is related to compliments. Telling a guy he has amazing eyes and a charming smile are nice things to say. 

But you know what? He won’t appreciate your compliments because of mainly two reasons:

  • You’re not the first person who compliments him on his eyes and smile;
  • He didn’t choose to look the way he does, so you’re not even complimenting his choices.

Instead, your compliments should be aimed at his style or his masculinity.

Here are a few examples:

  • I really like how you style your hair./You always dress for the occasion.
  • I like your taste in music./You always pick the nicest songs for us to listen to.
  • I enjoy taking walks with you at night. You make me feel really safe.
  • No one is able to cheer me up as you do. I can count on you.

3. Make him feel like your hero

Another psychological trick you can apply in your situation is based on a man’s need to basically be your hero.

If when you think of a hero you see a knight in shining armor or let’s say… Superman, I have to stop you right here. 

In the modern world, this concept refers to a man’s need to feel that he actually has a role in a woman’s life. 

In a way, every man wants to have an independent woman by his side. But, at the same time, he wants to feel useful. 

So, don’t hesitate to ask for his help with something or to encourage his protective behavior in certain situations.

4. Stand up for him and take his side

Look, just because he is a man, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t need defending. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t want or appreciate having someone on his side.

If you want to make a man want you desperately, show him you have his back. Why does this work?

It works because it shows you respect him and you care enough for him to take his side. Especially if you do this in a social context, he’ll be impressed.

However, if you don’t get the chance to say something in public, you can still tell him something about it in private. You could tell him you think he was right or that you support him.

5. Show him your vulnerable side

After you show him your tough side, there is something else you can do to make a man fall in love with you: show him your vulnerable side.

You might think that defending him in public is enough to make a man realize you have a crush on him. But men are not that good at picking up signals.

However, according to research, men respond really well when a woman opens up to them and shares her feelings. This means your emotional vulnerability plays an important role in the way he perceives you.

On top of that, thanks to another study, we now know that expressiveness and openness are considered desirable traits by both men and women. 

6. Use the right body language 

Want to know another scientifically-proven trick to make a man fall in love with you?

To appear more attractive to him, all you have to do is use open body language.

Amazing research in this field reveals that expansive body language, which is often also dominant, attracts the most and this applies to both sexes. 

Let me give you some examples: 

Whenever you’re with him or pose in pictures you know he might see, you…

  • … should stand/sit with your back straight and create a wide space with your arms;
  • … shouldn’t sit/stand with your arms crossed or hunched over;
  • … shouldn’t cover your breasts or crotch area;

7. Stare deep into his eyes

If you’re really determined to make him catch feelings for you, practice prolonged eye contact with him.

Why does this work?

An iconic study found that as a result of prolonged eye contact, the possibility of two people falling in love increases.

Staring deeply into his eyes can make a guy fall in love with you or drawn to you (at the very least).

However, numerous psychologists warn you that picking the right time is essential.

For example, don’t stare at him if he’s eating. That would only make him feel uncomfortable. Instead, maintain eye contact after a kiss or when he makes you laugh.

8. Listen to him carefully

Have you ever tried active listening?

If you have no idea what it means but want to make a man fall deeply for you, then read further!

Here are a few tips for active listening:

  • Look at him in the eyes when he’s talking to you;
  • Don’t interrupt him when he’s talking;
  • Listen to him without judging him;
  • Ask him questions about what he says;
  • Don’t think about what to say next – just listen.

Active listening works when trying to create a deep connection with someone, man or woman.


When someone makes us feel heard and genuinely takes interest in what we say, we develop feelings of closeness for that person.

9. Let him miss you a little

So far, you’ve learned that attraction and closeness play essential roles in making a guy fall in love with you. 

However, a little mystery is also needed. In this regard, numerous psychologists point out that you can also get a positive emotional response from a man if you let him miss you a little.

If you let him stop and wonder for a second where you are and what you’re doing, you’ll be on the right path to achieving your goal.

When a man notices your absence, it means he’s already attached to your presence and to the way you make him feel.

10. Give him reasons to trust you

Although most women are known to be the suspicious ones, men also need reassurance even if they don’t openly ask for it.

Even if you’re just dating him for the time being and you didn’t put a label on your relationship yet, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t give him reasons to trust you. 

On the contrary, trust helps build a deep connection.

Here are a few psychological based tips to make him trust you:

  • Keep your promises and do what you said you will do;
  • Don’t make promises if you know you can’t keep them;
  • Be consistent in your behavior with him;
  • Be honest with him and share secrets with him;
  • Show your vulnerable side and admit your mistakes if any.

11. Mirror his nonverbal behavior

Do you want to make him fall in love with you and not know what hit him? If you do, then mirror his nonverbal behavior!

This is a scientifically-proven way to make him like you without him even realizing what you’re doing and it works because we are instinctively attracted to people who are similar to us.

For example, if he puts his arms on the table, you can wait a few seconds and do the same.

Or, if he touches you while he laughs at one of your jokes, touch him the next time he makes you laugh.

12. Tell him about your passions

Another sure way to a man’s heart is to talk to him about your passions. 

If you are truly passionate about something or you have a greater goal in your own life, don’t hesitate to tell him about it.

A passionate person often glows and puts out a positive energy filled with purpose and determination when he or she talks about what they like or what matters to them. They become like a magnet for others.

On top of that, in this way you might discover that you share some of the same passions and dreams.

13. Always greet him with a smile

The smile alone can make a guy fall in love (or any human for that matter).

So don’t ever rob your face with your beautiful smile.

No matter how hard your day was, how sad your parents made you feel, or how bad the weather is, always greet him with a smile!

If you really want to learn how to make a guy fall in love with you, remember this: don’t let anything get in the way for a successful relationship.

You can tell him all about your hardships, your sorrows, and your inconveniences later. But when you see him, smile at him!

This will not only put him in a good mood and make him associate those feelings with you.

14. Make sure you look and smell amazing

It goes without saying that your looks and the way you smell also matter. Even if the psychology of attraction is way more complicated than this, you can’t overlook these basic aspects.

Now, this doesn’t mean that you should live up to the standards imposed by the society you live in. You don’t have to look like a model or like the women in magazines to make a man love you.

In general, men are attracted to healthy-looking women that take care of themselves. But, if you want a little boost, then wear makeup, flattering clothes, and a seductive fragrance.

15. Accept him for who he really is

Are you in love with him? If you are, it means you accept him for who he is, right?

In case you thought about his shortcomings right now, you have to learn to accept them. It would be pointless to make this man love you if you don’t want him for who he is.

So, give this one more thought: are you planning to change what you don’t like about him, or are you simply smitten by him?

Let him know what you accept him for who he is, don’t try to change him. Treat him just like he is your dream guy.

16. Show him you are an independent woman

As I mentioned before, men prefer independent women. But is this fact based on science? 

According to the latest test done in this field, it is, which brings me to the next question: what are the characteristics of an independent woman?

  • An independent woman relies on herself to do whatever needs to get done. 
  • She knows that her happiness does not depend on others and she isn’t needy. 
  • She often lives her best life and she focuses on her career and self-development.
  • An independent woman doesn’t need a man to make her whole; she chooses to be with him for who he is.

17. Have in-depth conversations with him

Are in-depth conversations truly important in the process of making a guy fall in love with you?

Psychologists have again found the answer! According to a journal article, sharing personal information with someone makes that person more attracted to you.

Similarly, withholding sensitive information from someone has the power to make them instantly less attracted to you… if they find out. 

It’s a way to let him know that you trust him.

The conclusion?

Strike up a deep conversation with him if you want him to strike up a serious relationship with you!

18. Give him the space he needs

Everybody needs space.

Each of us needs our time alone to recharge our batteries or meditate or do whatever else we want.

You don’t need a scientific study to tell you that. You don’t need it because you have the ability to understand a person’s need for alone time.

Especially if the man you have a crush on is an introvert, you have to get used to the idea that he will not want to spend every second of his free time with you. 

If you think about it, how else will he miss you if you don’t let him spend time alone?

19. Maintain a bit of mystery

So far, I’ve encouraged you to open up to him, show him your vulnerable side, share in-depth conversations, and so on.

But, I’ve also told you that making him miss you from time to time is also a good idea. The same goes for maintaining a bit of mystery. 

By this, I mean that you don’t have to share every little thought you have with him. While it’s advisable to tell him how you feel, you shouldn’t repeat it to him until it loses its charm.

Or, you don’t have to ruin all the magic for this guy by giving him the gory details of your latest beauty salon visit. Maintain a bit of mystery and let him ask you questions as well.

20. Let him tell you all about himself

The last, but not least way to make this guy fall in love with you is to let him talk about himself.

Take a genuine interest in him and listen to what he shares about himself.

Try to be his friend as well, not only his lover, by taking interest in him. In the end, it will be all worth it because he’ll become genuinely interested in you. 


By now you should have a good idea about how to make a guy fall in love with you. Try all the psychologically-tested steps above and you have all the chances to succeed.

Don’t forget to stay patient along the way. Falling in love is a process and it takes time to happen. Rushing things might ruin them, so do yourself a favor and have patience with him.

Don’t ever lose hope either! You have all the reasons to believe he will fall in love with you if you maintain a positive attitude and share good vibes.

However, if you’re shy then I would recommend you reading my article on how to ask a guy out.

Wondering if he is in to you?

Daniela Duca Damian
About Daniela Duca Damian

A journalist by profession, Daniela has been sharing her knowledge and personal experience in the psychology of love and relationships for the past 5 years. Her work is based on facts, practical advice and is meant to help everyone achieve their romantic goals. When she isn’t writing, she challenges her friends with meaningful questions about life.

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