You can get a girl to fall in love with you in the most unexpected ways. Sometimes, one moment is enough to change her feelings for you forever.
But to get to that moment, itâs important to get to know her and spend time with her. She wonât be smitten by you overnight.
However, if youâre consistent and give her reasons to like you and feel attracted to you, the results will come.
To make sure you do everything by the book, follow my guide! In it, youâll find everything you need to know to reach your goal.
Time waits for no one, so letâs jump right in!
How to Get a Girl to Fall in Love with You
Step A: Understanding Her Before Making a Move
1. Observe how she reacts to you and her body language around you
The first step is to determine where you stand with her. How?
By observing how she reacts to you. Positive reactions are when sheâŚ
- ⌠makes eye contact with you and even smiles when you enter the room
- ⌠looks away from her phone and pays attention to you when you talk
- ⌠giggles or laughs when you say something funny
If she doesnât even turn her head to look at you, you might have to up your game to attract her attention.
As for her body language, it can tell you about a womanâs feelings for you even before she realizes them.
Here are some of the body language signs she likes you:
- She plays with her hair, twisting it around her finger
- She frequently licks her lips or bites them during conversation
- Her feet are pointed right at you while sitting or standing
- She starts sweating, her cheeks are flushed and she fiddles
- She mimics your body language
If, for example, she crosses her arms and doesnât look nervous at all, it means youâre not on her love radar yet.
2. Discover her love language, and communication style, and learn more about her
The more you know about a woman, the easier will be for you to find a way straight to her heart.
If you know a little bit about what she likes and what her interests are, it will be a breeze for you to find topics to talk about and surprise her with gifts, words of affirmation, or by offering your help.
She will react according to what her love language is (words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, or physical touch), as well as her communication style (passive, aggressive, assertive.)
Unless you are bold enough to ask her directly what her love language is, you have a few other options, such as:
- Ask her friends – However, in this way, youâll expose yourself and give away your interest
- Observe her around other people – Youâll have to be patient and hang out long enough until you figure it out
- Go through her social media posts and discover the things she appreciates – If sheâs active online, youâll learn more about her.
In case sheâs an assertive communicator (friendly, makes eye contact, expresses herself clearly and easily), youâll have no issues communicating with her.
But if sheâs a passive communicator (soft voice, no eye contact), you have to take initiative and approach her directly, as well as ask for her opinions.
Matching an aggressive communicatorâs style is challenging, especially if she interrupts others often and is sarcastic. You can do it though by staying calm and confronting her negative behavior.
Step B: Laying the Groundwork for Building Attraction
3. Give her signs you are attracted to her
To fall in love with you, she needs to know that you are attracted to her, right?
If you agree, then proceed by giving her the proper signals:
- Flirt with her by giving her bold looks
- Make eye contact with her and then look away
- Smile to show you are happy to see her
- Lean in when sheâs talking to you
- Give her compliments about her looks and personality
- Try to make her laugh
- Touch her playfully on her arm or shoulder
- Seek her physical proximity
Examples of phrases you canât go wrong with are:
- âYouâre my kind of girlâ
- âI like how you do this and thatâ
- âI was amazed to see/hear that youâŚâ
- âYouâre the first person I know who also likes (something that you like)â
4. Wrap yourself in an air of secrecy
Do you know what else women love? Mystery!
A bit of mystery has a beneficial effect because it creates intrigue! By being so, you paint a clear image of yourself that says youâre not the oversharing kind.
To make her even more curious, answer vaguely to some of her questions. Tease her by telling her she has to answer three of your questions before you answer one of hers.
What else can you do to appear more mysterious?
Display confidence and do unpredictable things that will positively surprise her by embracing your uniqueness.
Also, donât show up wherever she goes. Being less present and not overly available will show her that youâre not needy and you have other interests/hobbies.
Why does this work? Thanks to the scarcity effect! According to it, we all place a higher value on an object or a person that is not available in abundance.
5. Maintain your confidence and authenticity
How to make a girl fall in love with you? Work on increasing your confidence levels!
Becoming more confident is hard work. But does it pay off? It does!
You can begin by focusing on the health of your body. Iâm not saying you should join a gym and bulk up. Iâm only suggesting to take care of yourself by watching your diet, sleeping, and exercising more.
Being more aware of your thoughts also helps. As soon as you recognize negative self-talk and change it with positive self-talk, other people will notice, too.
To become even more confident, surround yourself with positive people who have an uplifting effect on you. Donât spend time with negative people who bring you down.
Your authenticity has the power to impress a woman to the point where she catches feelings for you. So, make sure you act based on your core values and beliefs.
Also, live with integrity, communicate honestly, manage your emotions, and don’t make assumptions. Simply put, keep it real!
6. Focus on getting better at communicating
A big part of communicating with another person is listening to them. When you practice active listening, you have better chances of understanding the other person.
Whatâs more, if you listen attentively and ask meaningful questions, you instantly become more attractive to women. They see your interest as genuine and they feel heard.
But hereâs something even more interesting: According to a 2003 study by Faye Doell, people listen for two reasons: they listen to understand, and they listen to respond.
To make a woman catch feelings for you, you must listen to understand. To be more precise, it means to listen without thinking about what youâre going to say next – just to get a grasp of what sheâs talking about.
7. Pay attention to your health and looks
With the risk of being shallow, Iâm going to say it: Your physical appearance matters!
Now, Iâm not referring to innate beauty and six-pack abs here. I am talking about looking presentable.
Regardless of how you dress and which clothing style you prefer, itâs important to look fresh whenever you know sheâll see you.
Donât wear the same smelly shirt every day and take a few minutes to trim your beard/shave your face and style your hair a little.
For good first impressions, make sure your nails are also on point. I went out with a guy once who didnât cut his nails, he was biting them and they were pointy (gross to be honest).
Your health contributes to your attractiveness or the lack of it. If youâre a smoker and you cough your lungs out while speaking, thatâs unattractive.
Or, if you look pale or have an unhealthy complexion, she wonât be attracted to look at you.
Step C: Building a Genuine Connection With Her
8. Bond over your mutual interests
The next step is all about bonding with her. And how else would you do that if not over mutual interests?
You can explore activities that you both like and have long conversations about the topics you both enjoy. Maybe you two take the same class or have the same hobbies.
In case her hobbies are similar to yours or you are curious about each otherâs hobbies, you can get together and try them out.
If your tastes in entertainment match, thatâs even better! This means you can have fun together and share more intimate moments.
9. Show her your most attractive personality and behavioral traits
In the process of establishing rapport with her, itâs recommended to also highlight your most attractive traits.
In general, men who are confident, sincere, independent, kind, funny, positive, open-minded, and attentive have better chances to win a girlâs heart.
On top of that, I think itâs impressive if a man has strong listening skills and is open to trying new things.
As for how a man acts, women always appreciate supportive men who offer their help without having to ask for it.
We also love it when a guy makes thoughtful gestures or surprises us with small gifts that show they care.
10. Develop an emotional connection with her
At this point, you should make her feel even closer to you than she felt before.
To make that happen, focus on developing a deep emotional connection with her that will pave the way for romantic love.
How?
According to a 2014 study by Keith M. Welker, Lynzey Baker, Alexandra Padilla, and Hannah J. Holmes, mutual self-disclosure is the answer!
Let me explain: If she opens up to you about something and you meet her halfway by also disclosing something about yourself, you are building something with her. This goes both ways.
You deepen the connection you have because she lets you see her vulnerable side and you let her see yours.
So, communicate openly with her and go on adventures together to create pleasant memories and inside jokes.
11. Make her feel special and show respect
How can you make a girl feel special?
- Compliment her in meaningful, appropriate ways – Be a sweetheart, and donât comment on her body parts. Think bigger and better by complimenting her personality and talents
- Spend one-on-one quality time with her – Even if her love language is not quality time, she will appreciate you making time for her and giving her your undivided attention
- Do things for her that are thoughtful – Surprise her by helping her out with whatever she needs, without waiting for her to ask. Buy chocolates, coffee, or whatever she likes to show your affection.
Thereâs science behind this step, you know! In 2011, Nathaniel M. Lambert and Frank D. Fincham conducted research to find out the role of expressing gratitude to a partner in a relationship.
Do you know what they found?
If you regularly show appreciation to a girl, that alone can ignite the spark in your love life. Whatâs more, expressing gratitude increases relationship comfort.
Step D: Building Trust and Security
12. Maintain a consistent behavior and be reliable
What else can you do to make her fall in love with you? Donât change your behavior to confuse her. Be consistent and show her she can count on you.
If youâre serious about winning a womanâs heart, donât play games with her. Donât act hot and cold with her. Donât stop texting her out of the blue just because you have a bad day.
AlsoâŚ
- ⌠keep your word
- ⌠follow through on your promises
- ⌠show up on time
- ⌠stick to your commitments
- ⌠be there for her when she needs you
Thatâs how you build trust with her.
13. Be open and honest with her
Look, I know it might not come naturally to you to fully open up to another person, let alone a girl you like.
You might be tempted to tell her little white lies about yourself just because youâre too embarrassed to tell her the truth.
But trust me; itâs better to be open and honest with her. Only in this way, sheâll feel secure with you.
DonâtâŚ
- ⌠make her think you are experienced with girls if you arenât
- ⌠tell her you like something just because she says likes it
- ⌠tell her what you think she wants to hear instead of the truth
- ⌠say a lie just because you want to avoid confrontations
14. Offer your support and validation when she needs it
What does it really mean to be a womanâs romantic partner? It means to be her lover, her friend, her parent, her muze, all in one.
So, I urge you to take all your roles seriously. In times of need, back her up! Listen to her and tell her sheâs right to feel that way.
Be there for her and provide all the emotional support she needs. Is she upset with something?
Ask her questions and allow her to vent. If you do this, sheâll find great comfort in talking to you and sheâll want to do so every time she needs it.
Donât make her feel like a crybaby regardless of how small you think her problem is. Try to feel what sheâs feeling to understand her.
Step E: Taking the Relationship to the Next Level
15. Take her on dates
If you do everything right, sheâll accept your date invitation and from there, youâll probably enjoy numerous dates together.
To ensure your success, plan romantic, fun, and exciting dates. When planning dates, always take her likes, dislikes, and preferences into consideration.
Donât drag her on a hike, if you know sheâs not into hiking. Donât take her bowling if she is a germophobe. You get the picture.
Instead, take her to places she is curious about and engage in activities that make you both feel good. You can even take a class together or participate in team sports.
A scary movie or an adventurous experience also helps! If she gets scared a little, she might experience fear-based arousal and feel even more attracted to you.
16. Tell her how you feel about her
When you feel the moment is right, tell her how you feel about her.
You donât have to make a grandiose declaration of love. Use simple words to confess your feelings.
Tell her what you like and love about her, as well as how she makes you feel. Doing this will deepen your relationship.
Also, make sure she knows you want her to be part of your future by talking about it and making plans. This will show her you are serious and committed to making her part of your life.
17. Donât put pressure on her
Some girls will respond immediately after you confess your feelings for them, while others will need more time to process things and decide whether or not they want to commit.
If your girl reciprocates your feelings and responds positively to your declaration of love, thatâs great! You can proceed confidently with your relationship.
You can even talk about being exclusive if sheâs into you just as much as youâre into her.
However, if your girl needs more time to talk about her feelings for you and is not ready to take your relationship to the next level, you should give her time.
Donât put pressure on her. Instead, let things develop naturally and keep a positive attitude! Her reasons for being reluctant might not even be about you.
18. Maintain a consistent behavior that shows commitment
Do you want to make her fall harder and harder in love with you?
Then maintain a consistent behavior throughout the dating phase. Thatâs how sheâll know you are in it for the long haul.
Let me be more specific:
- Check-in daily and meet in person as often as possible
- Prioritize spending time with her, especially only the two of you
- Remember important dates like her birthday, when you first met, her loved oneâs birthdays, events that matter to her
- Surprise her in thoughtful ways with dinner, a gift, or by doing chores to help her out
- Find ways to keep the romance alive like trying something new together, traveling, learning something new, etc
19. Discuss any issues that occur and make compromises
Various issues and misunderstandings are bound to occur in every relationship. Since you canât avoid them, itâs best to focus on talking about them and clearing the air.
Whenever something happens, whether you fight or argue about something, donât let it escalate. Address the issue immediately, or as soon as youâre both calm.
Be open to the idea that sometimes, youâll have to agree to disagree and also make compromises for the well-being of your relationship.
The same goes for when any of you have concerns related to your relationship. Itâs essential to openly talk about them while maintaining a non-judgemental attitude.
Donât worry! Youâll get better at it in time.
Summary:
I have to admit that getting a girl to fall in love with you is an elaborate process that requires consistency, authenticity, patience, and perseverance.
But even so, I trust you are perfectly capable of achieving your goal. Just remember the following:
Getting to know the girl and observing her love language and communication style will help you approach her more effectively.
The way you present yourself and communicate is also important. Show her you are confident, authentic, and a bit mysterious to spark her interest in you and make her feel attracted to you.
Next, build a genuine emotional connection with her by exploring your shared interests, showing vulnerability, and displaying attractive traits and behaviors.
You wonât go wrong if you find ways to make her feel special, and safe with you. Do this sincerely and youâll earn her trust, a fact which will take your relationship to the next level.
And if you fail once, remember to keep being confident and stay true to your values. The right girl will come along!
