Listen, Iâm going to be brutally honest with you:
If you feel that your girlfriend is losing interest in you, youâre probably right. Your gut feeling is the first indication that something is off in your relationship.
What happened, though? Has she fallen out of love?
I hate to break it to you, but⌠maybe she wasnât in love in the first place. You see, most often than not, people confuse infatuation with genuine love.
When we are infatuated with someone, we often feel very attracted to them. We may even feel admiration for them and sexual passion as well.
All the physical symptoms of falling in love could be there too, including an increased heart rate, the feeling of having butterflies in the stomach, and so on.
Itâs a sort of initial rush that makes us think less clearly due to a cocktail of hormones and chemicals that are released by our brains.
However, this phase doesnât last long. All those feelings fade away eventually and guess what? This could be exactly what is happening to your girlfriend.
But, before we jump to conclusions, you should make sure sheâs indeed losing interest in you and youâre not just imagining it.
How? Look out for the next…
17 Signs Your Girlfriend Is Losing Interest In You:
1. She is too busy to spend quality time together
The first sign your girlfriend is losing interest in you is related to how much time she spends with you. If there are no changes in this department, then you can move on to the next sign.
However, if you clearly notice that she becomes busier every day (even if her reasons are legit), then you should be worried.
When a woman does that, sheâs essentially telling you that you are no longer a central priority for her. Many other things are taking up space and time in her life.
Thatâs why she is less available to spend time with you. In other words, you are no longer as relevant or special to her as before.
Again, donât fall for her excuses. It doesnât matter that sheâs busy with extracurricular activities or something else.
What matters is that she is no longer interested in spending as much time with you.
2. Your Girlfriend seems more Secretive these days
Was there a time when your girlfriend used to be like an open book to you?
Or, was she always a bit secretive?
If she used to be transparent with you about her thoughts, her whereabouts, and so on, but she no longer is, then this could be a red flag.
Something mustâve happened and thatâs why she changed her attitude towards you.
Can you think of something?
If you canât, then donât beat yourself up. It could simply be because she gradually lost interest in you. At some point, she mustâve stopped seeing you through rose-colored glasses.
Either way, if lately, you find out more about what your GF is doing from social media than from her, maybe itâs time to have an honest conversation with her.
Fair warning: She might come up with excuses, such as âI forgot to tell you about this party I had to attend,â so do your best to keep a clear head.
3. She doesnât bother to voice her dissatisfactions anymore
Your girlfriend could stop complaining for 2 main reasons:
- You either worked on your flaws and/or fixed your mistakes.
- Or, she has lost interested so she stopped caring as much as before.
So, which one is it?
If she simply stopped talking to you about the things that bother her about you and your relationship, thatâs not good.
For example, if she used to complain that you donât give her enough attention and now she says nothing about it (although you didnât make any changes), this could mean that she doesnât want/need your attention anymore.
Or, if she couldnât keep her jealousy in check, but now sheâs doing a wonderful job at it, then something is different and that could be her level of interest in you.
Such issues donât go away overnight. Thatâs why this is a sign that you should seriously consider.
4. She doesn’t find you funny anymore
One of the best and sure ways to tell if a girl is interested in you is to observe her reaction when you make jokes.
If she laughs really hard, even when no one else is laughing, or even if your joke is really silly, it means she likes you.
When the opposite happens, though, she wonât laugh even if youâre super-funny and witty.
In fact, she could say “you’re not funny.”
Is this the case with your girlfriend?
In case she no longer finds you funny, take it as a warning sign. However, make sure you do your best before you draw any conclusions.
Try to make her laugh. Try to be the guy you think she fell in love with. If you manage to make her laugh, then thereâs hope.
But if you donât, and she doesnât even try to pretend that she finds you funny, maybe itâs time to face the truth about her feelings for you.
5. She is not trying to impress you with her looks anymore
Most women adore highlighting their femininity and dolling up for their partners.
We love to do our hair and to spend time putting makeup on, trying to look as attractive as possible for ourselves, but also for you guys.
We carefully rub every inch of our soft bodies with moisturizers to make ourselves irresistible to touch and we also wear perfumes that make other people turn their heads.
This entire routine is meant to make ourselves feel confident, but also to impress our partners.
Letâs face it: no woman dolls herself up when she knows no one is going to see her.
But what if your girlfriend stopped trying to impress you with the way she looks? What if sheâs only wearing sweatpants when she sees you?
Well⌠it could be a sign sheâs losing interest in you.
How can you be sure?
Initiate a video call with her before she goes out with her friends, for example.
If she looks amazing and sheâs also dressed to impress, then things are pretty clear: your hunch about her level of interest in you is true.
6. Your girlfriend no longer has curiosities about you
Another way to grasp a womanâs interest in you as a romantic partner is to determine how many questions she asks you about yourself.
As long as your GF keeps asking you questions and seems interested in you as a person and your life as well, youâre good.
However, if she asks you fewer questions, you should be alarmed.
Wait, is this really an issue?
Yes, it is! I can tell you from personal experience that my partner and I still have a lot to ask each other even after 6 years of being together.
We never stopped being curious about each other and about the ways we think and feel. Thatâs why I think your relationship is in trouble. Not asking questions is a sign of disinterest.
The same goes for the way she replies to your questions. In case her answers are short and mainly include words such as âyes,â âno,â and âmaybe,â the odds are not in your favor.
7. She is not interested in hanging out
At first, you were all she needed to keep herself entertained. Now⌠not so much.
Another possible behavioral clue that she is losing interest is when she stops wanting to spend time alone with you.
If your girlfriend has become a social bird lately and wants to do group activities only, things are getting clearer: your presence alone is no longer enough.
She wants to do things with other people (as long as these people are not your friends or members of your family).
Donât get me wrong, spending time with other people as a couple as well as alone is healthy in any committed relationship.
However, it becomes unhealthy when it turns into a way to avoid emotional and physical intimacy with each other.
You might also wanna read these signs: Signs Your Girlfriend Isnât Sexually Attracted to You.
8. She has made a habit of canceling dates and not rescheduling
Simply put, couples want to spend time together and donât want to miss any opportunity to see each other.
You know what Iâm talking about, especially if your interest in your girlfriend has been increasing since you met her.
So, what if your girlfriend often cancels plans with you and shows no intention to reschedule? Thatâs a sign she has started to lost interest in you. Youâre no longer at the top of her priority list.
How can you be sure? Listen to her carefully. Her words will help you figure out if sheâs lying to you.
If sheâs using her family or friends as an excuse for not being able to make it, sheâs probably lying:
- My mom asked me to help her with something.
- I have to do this thing with my brother.
- My best friend is having a problem and she needs me.
- My aunt is coming to town and I have to show her around.
9. She acts hot and cold all the time
The hot and cold behavior is a known manipulation and seduction technique.
Let me explain:
Your girlfriend could be very affectionate and flirty with you one day and totally ignore you the next day.
But to what end?
Since her behavior is inconsistent, there is a possibility sheâs using you. If sheâs love-bombing you whenever she needs or wants something from you, thatâs a big red flag.
Maybe, at first, she was genuine about her feelings for you. But as they faded away, she chose not to break things off.
Instead, she thought that keeping you close to meet her needs is better.
So, if you feel in any way that sheâs using you, then maybe itâs time to reanalyze your relationship with her.
10. She is moodier with you than sheâs ever been
Your girlfriendâs mood can also indicate just how much the well-being of your relationship interests her.
How so?
If you feel like youâre walking on eggshells when youâre with her, know that is not normal. Whatever sheâs going through is no excuse to make you feel this way.
Especially if sheâs not dealing with any hardship in particular, she could be moody because sheâs dissatisfied with the entire situation.
Maybe when sheâs with you, sheâs not where she wants to be and thatâs why you only get negative vibes and reactions from her.
I know this is difficult to process, but it could be the truth. So, if sheâs almost always irritated, you should do your best to find out why.
11. Your girlfriend doesnât care about your future plans
Let me ask you another question: Is your girlfriend curious about your plans for the future?
If she is, and sheâs always trying to make plans with you for the near future, then youâve got yourself a good girlfriend.
But what if she acts as if she doesnât even care?
Well, thatâs obviously a bad sign. If she was indeed interested in you, she would want to know what youâre up to and maybe plan something together.
Couples in love look forward to weekends and vacations because thatâs when they can spend more quality time together.
If sheâs not looking forward to seeing you or doing something with you, she might not be the woman you deserve.
12. She no longer includes you in her future plans
The fact that your GF is not curious about your plans is not the only thing you should worry about.
If, in turn, she doesnât tell you about her plans, thatâs another red flag.
Ask yourself this: Do you know where your girlfriend is now and what sheâs doing? Or what her plans for the weekend are?
- If you asked her but didnât get a clear answer, it means sheâs avoiding you.
- If you didnât ask her but she didnât tell you either, itâs unlikely she wonât do something.
Either way, things are not looking good for you two. As I mentioned before, finding out where your girlfriend is by stalking her on social media is not the answer.
13. Your girlfriend pays attention to her phone, not to you
Are you looking for more signs your girlfriend is losing interest?
I can think of another one that has everything to do with when she uses her phone and what for.
If lately she mainly pays attention to her phone and not to you, it could mean sheâs disinterested in what you have to say.
Whatâs more, if you happen to notice that sheâs been talking to other guys or swiping right on certain dating apps (like Tinder), then your relationship might be doomed.
You see, your girlfriend is not only interacting with other potential partners, but sheâs also disrespecting you when she does that.
In case you didnât know, itâs not okay to let her treat you like that.
14. She acts as if she found someone else sheâs attracted to
Maybe the reason your Girlfriend has started to lose interest in you is not because she was infatuated with you.
The real reason could be that she met another guy sheâs interested in and thatâs why you come second now.
If itâs any consolation, these things happen all the time. Some people fall in and out of love easily and have many partners during their lifetimes.
Or, maybe it simply wasnât meant to be with her. Although every woman you meet has the potential to become your life partner, this doesnât mean that youâll get it right on the first try.
You might have to go through multiple disappointments and betrayals until you meet the one for you.
15. Unless you call or text her, you never hear from her
As you already know, constant, clear, and honest communication is key to any successful long term relationship.
Thatâs why itâs a bad sign when youâre the only one taking the initiative and reaching out to her. Whether itâs by phone or text, you always contact her first.
This shows that youâre interested in what she does and that you also care about her well-being. It shows youâre a good boyfriend who wants to stay in touch with his girlfriend.
But what does it tell you about her? Sadly, it doesnât point to anything good.
16. Your girlfriend picks up fights with you over the smallest things
- Do you sometimes feel that your girlfriend canât stand you?
- Do you feel like youâre bothering her and upsetting her with insignificant things?
I wish I could tell you what you did to deserve that treatment and that youâre to blame. But, that may not be true.
The truth could be that sheâs in fact no longer interested in building a solid healthy relationship with you. If you think about it, this is a valid explanation for her anger management issues.
She has no reason to try and be patient with you because she doesnât see you two together in the long run.
17. She stopped following you or reacting to your posts online
Another clear sign your girlfriend doesn’t want relationship anymore: she haas stopsped paying attention to your activity on social media.
A guyâs online activity is a reason to worry for many women. They constantly check up on their boyfriendsâ posts, comments, reels, and messages because they want to make sure theyâre not messing around.
If your girlfriend is not doing that, she either trusts you blindly, or⌠sheâs losing interest. What do you think?
To make sure sheâs indeed not looking at what you do online, post something about the two of you or a photo together and tag her.
No reaction? It means sheâs no longer interested.
Angry reaction? It shows sheâs hiding something.
What Can You do if sheâs starting to lose interest In You?
Are the signs pointing to the unfortunate truth that your girlfriend is losing interest in you and your relationship?
If they are, donât despair! There are still ways to fix your relationship and regain her interest and affection. But for that to happen, you canât let the things she does bring you down.
- Improve Communication:
- Engage in open, honest conversations about your feelings and the relationship.
- Listen actively to her concerns and feelings.
- Avoid defensive responses and try to understand her perspective.
- Enhance Emotional Connection:
- Share personal thoughts and feelings to deepen emotional intimacy.
- Show empathy and understanding for her emotions and experiences.
- Engage in activities that foster emotional closeness.
- Increase Quality Time Together:
- Plan meaningful date nights or activities that you both enjoy.
- Prioritize spending time together without distractions.
- Be present and engaged during the time you spend together.
- Show Appreciation and Affection:
- Express gratitude for the things she does, both big and small.
- Show physical affection according to her comfort level.
- Compliment her genuinely and often.
- Spice Up the Relationship:
- Introduce new activities or experiences to share together.
- Keep the romance alive by planning surprises or thoughtful gestures.
- Explore new dimensions of your physical relationship, if appropriate.
- Respect Her Space and Independence:
- Give her the space she needs to pursue her own interests and friendships.
- Avoid being overly clingy or demanding of her time.
- Respect her boundaries and personal autonomy.
- Seek to Understand and Address Issues:
- If there are specific issues causing the loss of interest, work together to address them.
- Be willing to compromise and find mutually satisfying solutions.
- Consider couples counseling if there are deeper issues to explore.
