Listen, I’m going to be brutally honest with you:
If you feel that your girlfriend is losing interest in you, you’re probably right. Your gut feeling is the first indication that something is off in your relationship.
What happened, though? Has she fallen out of love?
I hate to break it to you, but… maybe she wasn’t in love in the first place. You see, most often than not, people confuse infatuation with genuine love.
When we are infatuated with someone, we often feel very attracted to them. We may even feel admiration for them and sexual passion as well.
All the physical symptoms of falling in love could be there too, including an increased heart rate, the feeling of having butterflies in the stomach, and so on.
It’s a sort of initial rush that makes us think less clearly due to a cocktail of hormones and chemicals that are released by our brains.
However, this phase doesn’t last long. All those feelings fade away eventually and guess what? This could be exactly what is happening to your girlfriend.
But, before we jump to conclusions, you should make sure she’s indeed losing interest in you and you’re not just imagining it.
How? Look out for the next…
17 Signs Your Girlfriend Is Losing Interest
1. She is less available to spend time with you
The first sign your girlfriend is disinvesting from you is related to how much time she spends with you. If there are no changes in this department, then you can move on to the next sign.
However, if you clearly notice that she becomes busier every day (even if her reasons are legit), then you should be worried.
When a woman does that, she’s essentially telling you that you are no longer a central priority for her. Many other things are taking up space and time in her life.
That’s why she is less available to spend time with you. In other words, you are no longer as relevant or special to her as before.
Again, don’t fall for her excuses. It doesn’t matter that she’s busy with extracurricular activities or something else.
What matters is that she is no longer interested in spending as much time with you.
2. Your girlfriend is not as transparent as before
Was there a time when your girlfriend used to be like an open book to you? Or, was she always a bit secretive?
If she used to be transparent with you about her thoughts, her whereabouts, and so on, but she no longer is, then this could be a red flag.
Something must’ve happened and that’s why she changed her attitude towards you. Can you think of something?
If you can’t, then don’t beat yourself up. It could simply be because she gradually lost interest in you. At some point, she must’ve stopped seeing you through rose-colored glasses.
Either way, if lately, you find out more about what your GF is doing from social media than from her, maybe it’s time to have a serious talk with her.
Fair warning: She might come up with excuses, such as “I forgot to tell you about this party I had to attend,” so do your best to keep a clear head.
3. She doesn’t bother to voice her dissatisfactions anymore
Your girlfriend could stop complaining for 2 main reasons:
- You either worked on your flaws and/or fixed your mistakes.
- Or, she stopped caring as much as before.
So, which one is it? If she simply stopped talking to you about the things that bother her about you and your relationship, that’s not good.
For example, if she used to complain that you don’t give her enough attention and now she says nothing about it (although you didn’t make any changes), this could mean that she doesn’t want/need your attention anymore.
Or, if she couldn’t keep her jealousy in check, but now she’s doing a wonderful job at it, then something is different and that could be her level of interest in you.
Such issues don’t go away overnight. That’s why this is a sign that you should seriously consider.
4. Your girlfriend stopped laughing at your jokes
One of the best and sure ways to tell if a girl is interested in you is to observe her reaction when you make jokes.
If she laughs really hard, even when no one else is laughing, or even if your joke is really silly, it means she likes you.
When the opposite happens, though, she won’t laugh even if you’re super-funny and witty. Is this the case with your girlfriend?
In case she no longer finds you funny, take it as a warning sign. However, make sure you do your best before you draw any conclusions.
Try to make her laugh. Try to be the guy you think she fell in love with. If you manage to make her laugh, then there’s hope.
But if you don’t, and she doesn’t even try to pretend that she finds you funny, maybe it’s time to face the truth about her feelings for you.
5. She is not trying to impress you with her looks anymore
Most women adore highlighting their femininity and dolling up for their partners.
We love to do our hair and to spend time putting makeup on, trying to look as attractive as possible for ourselves, but also for you guys.
We carefully rub every inch of our soft bodies with moisturizers to make ourselves irresistible to touch and we also wear perfumes that make other people turn their heads.
This entire routine is meant to make ourselves feel confident, but also to impress our partners. Let’s face it: no woman dolls herself up when she knows no one is going to see her.
But what if your girlfriend stopped trying to impress you with the way she looks? What if she’s only wearing sweatpants when she sees you?
Well… it could be a sign she’s losing interest in you. How can you be sure? Initiate a video call with her before she goes out with her friends, for example.
If she looks amazing and she’s also dressed to impress, then things are pretty clear: your hunch about her level of interest in you is true.
6. Your girlfriend no longer has curiosities about you
Another way to grasp a woman’s interest in you as a romantic partner is to determine how many questions she asks you about yourself.
As long as your GF keeps asking you questions and seems interested in you as a person and your life as well, you’re good.
However, if she asks you fewer questions, you should be alarmed. Wait, is this really an issue?
Yes, it is! I can tell you from personal experience that my partner and I still have a lot to ask each other even after 6 years of being together.
We never stopped being curious about each other and about the ways we think and feel. That’s why I think your relationship is in trouble. Not asking questions is a sign of disinterest.
The same goes for the way she replies to your questions. In case her answers are short and mainly include words such as “yes,” “no,” and “maybe,” the odds are not in your favor.
7. She is not interested in hanging out with you alone
At first, you were all she needed to keep herself entertained. Now… not so much.
Another possible behavioral clue that she is losing interest is when she stops wanting to spend time alone with you.
If your girlfriend has become a social bird lately and wants to do group activities only, things are getting clearer: your presence alone is no longer enough.
She wants to do things with other people (as long as these people are not your friends or members of your family).
Don’t get me wrong, spending time with other people as a couple as well as alone is healthy in any relationship.
However, it becomes unhealthy when it turns into a way to avoid emotional and physical intimacy with each other.
8. She made a habit of canceling dates and not rescheduling
Simply put, couples want to spend time together and don’t want to miss any opportunity to see each other.
You know what I’m talking about, especially if your interest in your girlfriend has been increasing since you met her.
So, what if your girlfriend often cancels plans with you and shows no intention to reschedule? That’s a sign she is disinvesting from you. You’re no longer at the top of her priority list.
How can you be sure? Listen to her carefully. Her words will help you figure out if she’s lying to you.
If she’s using her family or friends as an excuse for not being able to make it, she’s probably lying:
- My mom asked me to help her with something.
- I have to do this thing with my brother.
- My best friend is having a problem and she needs me.
- My aunt is coming to town and I have to show her around.
9. She’s inconsistent with her fun, sexy, and flirty behavior
The hot and cold behavior is a known manipulation and seduction technique. Let me explain:
Your girlfriend could be very affectionate and flirty with you one day and totally ignore you the next day. But to what end?
Since her behavior is inconsistent, there is a possibility she’s using you. If she’s love-bombing you whenever she needs or wants something from you, that’s a red flag.
Maybe, at first, she was genuine about her feelings for you. But as they faded away, she chose not to break things off. Instead, she thought that keeping you close to meet her needs is better.
So, if you feel in any way that she’s using you, then maybe it’s time to reanalyze your relationship with her.
10. She is moodier with you than she’s ever been
Your girlfriend’s mood can also indicate just how much the well-being of your relationship interests her. How so?
If you feel like you’re walking on eggshells when you’re with her, know that is not normal. Whatever she’s going through is no excuse to make you feel this way.
Especially if she’s not dealing with any hardship in particular, she could be moody because she’s dissatisfied with the entire situation.
Maybe when she’s with you, she’s not where she wants to be and that’s why you only get negative vibes and reactions from her.
I know this is difficult to process, but it could be the truth. So, if she’s almost always irritated, you should do your best to find out why.
11. Your girlfriend doesn’t care about your plans for the future
Let me ask you another question: Is your girlfriend curious about your plans for the future?
If she is, and she’s always trying to make plans with you for the near future, then you’ve got yourself a good girlfriend.
But what if she acts as if she doesn’t even care?
Well, that’s obviously a bad sign. If she was indeed interested in you, she would want to know what you’re up to and maybe plan something together.
Couples in love look forward to weekends and vacations because that’s when they can spend more quality time together.
If she’s not looking forward to seeing you or doing something with you, she might not be the woman you deserve.
12. She no longer includes you in her present and future plans
The fact that your GF is not curious about your plans is not the only thing you should worry about. If, in turn, she doesn’t tell you about her plans, that’s another red flag.
Ask yourself this: Do you know where your girlfriend is now and what she’s doing? Or what her plans for the weekend are?
- If you asked her but didn’t get a clear answer, it means she’s avoiding you.
- If you didn’t ask her but she didn’t tell you either, it’s unlikely she won’t do something.
Either way, things are not looking good for you two. As I mentioned before, finding out where your girlfriend is by stalking her on social media is not the answer.
13. Your girlfriend pays attention to her phone, not to you
Are you looking for more signs your girlfriend is losing interest?
I can think of another one that has everything to do with when she uses her phone and what for.
If lately she mainly pays attention to her phone and not to you, it could mean she’s disinterested in what you have to say.
What’s more, if you happen to notice that she’s been talking to other guys or swiping right on certain dating apps (like Tinder), then your relationship might be doomed.
You see, your girlfriend is not only interacting with other potential partners, but she’s also disrespecting you when she does that.
In case you didn’t know, it’s not okay to let her treat you like that.
14. She acts as if she found someone else she’s attracted to
Maybe the reason your GF is losing interest in you is not because she was infatuated with you.
The real reason could be that she met another guy she’s interested in and that’s why you come second now.
If it’s any consolation, these things happen all the time. Some people fall in and out of love easily and have many partners during their lifetimes.
Or, maybe it simply wasn’t meant to be with her. Although every woman you meet has the potential to become your life partner, this doesn’t mean that you’ll get it right on the first try.
You might have to go through multiple disappointments and betrayals until you meet the one for you.
15. Unless you call or text her, you never hear from her
As you already know, constant, clear, and honest communication is key to any successful relationship.
That’s why it’s a bad sign when you’re the only one taking the initiative and reaching out to her. Whether it’s by phone or text, you always contact her first.
This shows that you’re interested in what she does and that you also care about her well-being. It shows you’re a good boyfriend who wants to stay in touch with his GF.
But what does it tell you about her? Sadly, it doesn’t point to anything good.
16. Your girlfriend picks up fights with you over the smallest things
Do you sometimes feel that your girlfriend can’t stand you? Do you feel like you’re bothering her and upsetting her with insignificant things?
I wish I could tell you what you did to deserve that treatment and that you’re to blame. But, that may not be true.
The truth could be that she’s in fact no longer interested in building a solid relationship with you. If you think about it, this is a valid explanation for her anger management issues.
She has no reason to try and be patient with you because she doesn’t see you two together in the long run.
17. She stopped following you or reacting to your posts online
Another sign your girlfriend is disinvesting from you is this: she stops paying attention to your activity on social media.
A guy’s online activity is a reason to worry for many women. They constantly check up on their boyfriends’ posts, comments, reels, and messages because they want to make sure they’re not messing around.
If your GF is not doing that, she either trusts you blindly, or… she’s losing interest. What do you think?
To make sure she’s indeed not looking at what you do online, post something about the two of you or a photo together and tag her.
No reaction? It means she’s no longer interested.
Angry reaction? It shows she’s hiding something.
What to do if she’s losing interest?
Are the signs pointing to the unfortunate truth that your girlfriend is losing interest in you and your relationship?
If they are, don’t despair! There are still ways to fix your relationship and regain her interest and affection. But for that to happen, you can’t let the things she does bring you down.
If she forgot about your birthday, stopped being romantic with you, and started avoiding you altogether, you should try to find out why.
Talk to her and ask her what determined her to start losing interest in you. Encourage her to be as specific as possible and reassure her that you want to spark her interest in you again.