7 Real Reasons Why Your Crush Is Ignoring You

It’s never nice when someone you like ignores you – especially your crush.

It’s upsetting and it’s frustrating because YOU feel super excited to talk to them! 

But does it mean your crush doesn’t like you ?

Or could there be something else going on here?

The truth is that, while being ignored by a crush is hard, there’s always a reason. And sometimes it’s not a reason you ever suspected. 

Crushes might ignore you because they don’t like you back but it’s possible that you’ve done something that’s put them off a tad.

In this article, we’ll be taking a look at 8 possible reasons why your crush is ignoring you and what you can do to reverse the situation.

7 Reasons Why Your Crush Is Ignoring You:

1. Your Crush Doesn’t Have Any Romantic Interest in You

Sometimes, it’s the case that a crush simply doesn’t feel about you the way you feel about them.

You might want romance and a relationship, while they might see you as just a friend and nothing more.

In such circumstances, your crush might refrain from texting you so as to not lead you on.

They don’t want to give you the impression and ultimately hurt your feelings when they inevitably your crush ignores you for everyone’s good.

If this is the case, it’s important to accept that nothing will develop with your crush. Shift your focus by looking for new opportunities, both romantically as well as in other terms, such as new interests and hobbies. 

2. Your Crush is Ignoring You to Play Hard to Get

Even if your crush is ignoring you, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they don’t like you!

How can this be the case? 

There’s a chance that your crush is playing hard to get. This means they’ll go dark at times and let you chase them. 

They’ll also create obstacles – such as always being busy – that make it hard for you to get near to them. 

This is often because they want to create a bit of mystery and use it to create attraction. It may also be that they’re testing you to see how interested you really are in them. 

3. Your Crush Feels Like You’re a Creepy Stalker

Have you made too much effort to get to know your crush? 

For example, have you been talking to their close friends and asking questions about them?

Maybe you’ve expressed an interest in some of their hobbies that they haven’t even shared with you yet.

Maybe you took a look at their ancient social media photos and said “that’s a nice pic”?

If you come across as a stalker with your crush, they will feel overwhelmed and weirded out. And they won’t text you back.

Instead, it’s wiser to take a step back and remember that you don’t really know your crush just yet.

Give them breathing space and don’t interfere in their life.

4. Your Crush Maybe Going Through Tough Patch

If your crush isn’t texting you back, it’s not necessarily because of something you did (or that they don’t like you). 

It might be the case that they’ve got so much other stuff going on in their life right now that you’re not a priority. As unfortunate as it is, you’re way down their list. 

They might be stressed over their job or their financial situation or they might have family issues. They might even be going through a messy breakup or struggling with their health.

The fact is that you simply don’t know what’s going on in their life so it’s better to not make assumptions. 

5. They Have a Fear of Rejection or Being Vulnerable

Many people have a fear of rejection, which is when someone struggles with a lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem to the extent that they worry they’ll be quickly abandoned once they get together with someone.

Or, they feel vulnerable and exposed if they ask someone out – and they’re worried about what might happen if they get turned down. 

Fear of rejection is a common emotional barrier and many people who have it choose to protect themselves by not getting involved with others in the first place. 

This could be the case with your crush.

They might be ignoring you because they don’t want to get too close to you in case you eventually reject them and leave them feeling alone and abandoned. 

For them, the emotional pain they feel just isn’t worth it. 

6. They Have Avoidant Personality Disorder

If your crush doesn’t have a fear of rejection, they might instead have avoidant personality disorder

This is when someone feels inadequate in social situations and constantly senses that others are judging them. They might want to see you and even date you but they’re too worried that they’ll feel as though they’re not good enough for you. 

As such, someone who has APD won’t interact with someone unless they’re positive that they’ll be well-received, and they’ll struggle to be intimate with someone due to feeling full of shame. 

And because they’re so preoccupied with criticism in social situations, they’ll do all they can to avoid them. 

7. Your Crush May have Perceived a Sense of Incompatibility Between the Two of You 

While it might not make much of a difference to you right now how incompatible or compatible the two of you are, it might make all the difference to them.

If your crush is looking for a stable, long-term relationship, they will assess your potential based on how compatible you are with them in terms of your common interests, values and life goals.

While this might sound like “too much” at this early stage, it may be important to the other person if they don’t want to spend time chatting with someone they ultimately aren’t compatible with them,

After all, compatibility is essential when it comes to a healthy and fulfilling relationship. If this is what they want at this stage of their life, they will judge you on all your merits – which means they need something more than just physical attraction. 

How to be sure Your Crush is Ignoring You?

Sometimes, you can spot when a crush isn’t interested by looking at their body language. If someone is into you, they’ll sit close to you, they’ll mirror your body language and they’ll fidget. 

If someone is disinterested, they’ll sit back in their chair and cross their arms. They’ll also sit apart from you as opposed to next to you.

Body language is more powerful than verbal communication. It expresses subtly how into us someone is.

If your crush’s body language suggests they don’t like you, you might have to take this one on the chin and accept that they’re just not into you.


Once you understand why your crush is ignoring you, you can start taking steps to either remedy the situation to make them stop ignoring you or move on from the rejection.

Each scenario requires a different solution. If your crush isn’t interested in you, it’s time to accept this and find ways to focus on yourself so that you can move on from them. 

If, on the other hand, your crush likes you but has issues of their own, such as a fear of rejection, you can try to talk to them about your feelings and reassure them that the two of you can take this one step at a time. 

Ultimately, it’s important to remember that it’s all in your hands. And even if things don’t work out between the two of you, remember to keep working on yourself so that when the next romantic opportunity arises, you are the best version of you. 

About Will Titterington

Will Titterington is a highly sought-after relationship coach and author, with a passion for helping individuals and couples build and maintain healthy, thriving relationships. Will loves connecting with new people from all around the world and is always up for a good laugh, and takes joy in making others smile.

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