In an ideal world, a man would make it easy by telling you that heās into you.
Unfortunately, we donāt live in an ideal world – and guys can be just as indirect as women when it comes to revealing their feelings.
The good news is that if you pay attention to the way a man behaves, you can figure out if he is genuinely interested in your o not.
And the key to paying attention to how he behaves is knowing the different signs to watch out for.
In this article, Iāll be taking a look at the obvious signs that a man is pursuing you.
By the end of the article, you should have a better idea of whether heās just being nice or whether this could actually be a man you date.
Letās start.
17+ Signs That A Man Is Pursuing You
1. He Dedicates Significant Time and Effort to You
A man values his time. If he doesnāt like someone enough, he wonāt dedicate his time to them.
On the other hand, a man who likes a girl and is chasing her will always give her his time. Heāll make an effort to arrange things to do with you and he will always make sure that he is on time.
Remember, a man has to prove that he is the one for you. He knows he can only do this by spending time with you.
If he didnāt spend so much time with you, heād figure you know he doesnāt really care about you ā¦ but heāll also be worried that youāll be spending time with another man.
And in case youāre wondering – yes, there are a lot of other things a man could be doing with his time. But hey, heād rather spend time with you.
2. He Remembers Subtle Details About You
Itās a bit of a myth that guys donāt pay attention to things and always forget stuff.
Yes, itās true that if a man doesnāt care about you he might not listen to you enough to remember the details.
But if a man is pursuing you, he will take mental notes on the things youāve said and the clothes youāve worn. And if heās in hot pursuit of you, he might even take real notes!
However he records things about you, he makes sure to remember them. He knows your food and drink preferences, your tastes in music and your favorite movies.
You might even be surprised by how much he remembers about you – as well as the funny things he remembers!
3. He Frequently Smiles Back At You
If a man is pursuing a girl, he will smile consciously and unconsciously.
Heāll smile consciously because he wants you to know heās having a good time with you.
Heāll also smile unconsciously because he simply canāt help it. Heās enjoying being with you and itās making him smile.
So pay attention to how often he smiles. If he never smiles, itās not a terrible sign – but itās hardly a good sign.
If heās often smiling, itās a strong sign that he has feelings for you and wants you.
4. He Often Looks Directly Into Your Eyes
Studies have shown that attraction and feelings of passionate love are enhanced by an unbroken mutual gaze.
This means if a man is pursuing you, he will gaze back into your eyes just as youāre gazing at him.
It makes sense: If a man is attracted to someone, he will want to admire that person.
And if you direct his gaze right back at him, it can suggest mutual attraction ā¦ which can serve to arouse him and make him pursue you even more.
Iād also like to add a quick condition: If a man likes you but heās a bit too shy, he might find it make prolonged eye contact.
That doesnāt mean he doesnāt like you, though (heās just shy!).
You can look out for other body language cues. For example, when a man is pursuing you he will use open body language.
5. He Tries to Hang Out With You As Much As Possible
One of the biggest signs (if not the biggest) that a man likes you is when he actively tries to hang out with you as much as he can.
Make no mistake, this isnāt a case of him waiting for you to ask him out. On the contrary, heāll take charge and ask if you want to do things with him.
Whatās more, he wonāt invite other people – it will just be the two of you.
He might suggest you go for a ride or even for dinner together.
Or maybe heās just happy to accompany you to the shops.
Either way, heāll try to hang out with you a lot.
6. He Sometimes Calls You By Cute Names
If youāve noticed that he doesnāt always use your first name but has instead created a few cute nicknames for you, itās a big sign that heās pursuing you.
Naturally, you might not like all the names heās created for you. But the fact that heās decided to create these names for you is a sign of affection.
Itās also a sign that he sees you as more than just a coworker or friend. To him, thereās a close connection between the two of you and he feels totally okay with calling you by different names.
These could be anything, such as ācupcake,ā āpumpkin,ā and āsunshine.ā
7. He Tries to Make You Laugh
When a girl likes someone enough to chase her, he will try to make her laugh as much as he can.
Itās just what guys do.
They know that girls like men who can make them laugh, and they understand that shared laughter can create an emotional bond that brings two people closer together.
Trying hard to make you laugh is another example of him putting in an effort to impress you. He wants you to like him, he wants you to find him funny and appealing, and this means heās going to reel off a few jokes.
8. He seems to Enjoy Being in the Company of Your Friends
How does he behave when heās with your friends or mutual friends?
Is he at ease with himself, comfortable and does he have a laugh with them?
Or does he look bored and jaded? As though he doesnāt want to be there?
When a man likes a woman, he will do all he can to ingratiate himself with her social circle. Heāll take the time to get to know her friends and he will make sure that he has a good time with them.
This is because he wants to impress you and he wants to be a part of your life.
Why?
Because he knows how important your friends are.
9. He Makes You Feel Heard
When you talk, he will stop talking and listen. Not only does he listen, he actively listens.
This means he truly absorbs what you say, gives you time and space to speak and he offers totally non-judgemental advice to you.
In other words, he is making you feel heard and letting you know he is genuinely interested.
Not just that but if thereās something he can help you with, he will step up to the plate.
For instance, if you share a problem with him, heāll hear you out before doing what he can to help you.
10. He Appears to Be Possessive In His Feelings Towards You
While itās never a good thing when a man tries to possess you, itās definitely the case that, when a man is in the early stages of pursuing a woman, he will do all he can to make sure he knows how you feel about other guys.
For instance, if a man is chatting with you, heāll make sure to be a part of the convo. He might interject or try to steer it in a different direction (one that suits and involves him).
Or, if he finds out youāve been hanging out with another guy, heāll probably ask you how it went.
What kind of things did you talk about?
Essentially, heās trying to work out how you feel about other men – as well as what kind of guys heās competing with for your affection.
11. Heās Eager to Integrate You Into His Social Circle
Earlier, we saw how a guy who is pursuing you will ingratiate himself with your friends. Equally, he will make sure you integrate into his social circle, too.
All guys have their own worlds that theyāre pretty protective about. They only let specific people into them that they like, trust and respect.
As such, you can take it as a strong sign that he likes you if he starts asking you to hang out with his buddies.
He wants to find out how they feel about you (and how you feel about them) and maybe heāll also be hoping you let something slip to them about your feelings for him.
Also, a guyās social circle is a reflection of himself and his values. By introducing you to it, heās basically saying āThis is who I am. Do you like what you see?ā
12. He Has a Good Memory for the Things You Say
They say that guys have a selective memory. In other words, they only remember things they want to remember.
This might be true. But itās also good news for you if you remember the things you say.
If he later quotes you on something or he reminds you about that certain something you said, it shows that heās paying a lot of attention to you. And this is generally because he wants you.
13. He Frequently Involves You in His Future Plans
The moment a guy starts involving a girl in his plans is the moment you pretty much know for sure that heās chasing you.
For example, he might talk about his future aspirations, goals and dreams and how heād love it if you were there by his side, supporting him along the way.
Or maybe he might talk about his desire to live in another city and ask if youāve ever thought about living there, too? āI think that kind of place would suit both of us.ā
Whatever he says, just know that anytime he involves you in his plans is a strong sign that heās in this for the long haul with you.
14. He Is Up-to-Date With Your Social Media Activity
If youāre hanging out with him and he brings up something you recently posted on social media, such as a post, a meme or a reel, it indicates heās been checking your social media activity.
Naturally, it could also mean he just happened to come across it as he was scrolling through social media.
But the fact that he brought it up is a sign that he is pursuing you. Heās also subtly hinting that heās been keeping tabs on your posts – which demonstrates he likes you.
15. He Feels Jealous At Times But Does Not Display It Openly
Very few men will want to display their jealousy openly because they know it makes them insecure.
But know this: If a man is actively chasing you and wants to be in relationship with you, he will feel pangs of jealousy if he sees you talking/flirting with other men.
And while he may not express this openly, heāll drop subtle signs that betray his feelings.
For example, he might āinnocentlyā inquire if you had a good time with a certain guy recently. Or he might badmouth another guy you know, such as claiming that he isnāt smart or that he isnāt funny.
It might not seem like a big deal but it means heās jealous – and this suggests he wants you to himself.
16. He Says He Likes You and Gives You Compliments
While itās true that sometimes we donāt listen (because we donāt believe it) when someone tells us they like us, itās important that you listen when he says he likes you if heās also been displaying other signs that heās chasing you (see above).
Of course, not all men are direct enough to tell you that they like you. But a confident, charismatic guy will tell you – and heāll also shower you with compliments.
While these may start out as soft compliments – such as āI like your hairā – they might become deeper and more personal. For instance, he might comment on the way you smile or your intellect or your generosity.
These types of compliments come with feelings behind them and suggest he likes you.
17. He āAccidentallyā Gets Touchy Every Now and Then
Physical contact can make you feel relaxed and even aroused. He knows this – which is why you might notice him āaccidentallyā touching you every now and then.
Maybe heāll brush past you on his way to the bathroom or perhaps heāll playfully touch you on the arm when the two of you are sharing a joke.
If the amount of times he touches you becomes more and more frequent, it means that it isnāt an accident. Heās doing it on purpose and itās because heās chasing you.
18. He Has Gifted You Something Thoughtful
This could be anything, from a first-edition copy of a book he knows you love to a bouquet of flowers after you told him youād had a bad week at work.
Whatever the gift is, if itās something that clearly comes with a lot of thought behind it, it means that he sees you as more than just another friend. He is working hard to get your attention, heās making a lot of effort – and heās even spending money on you.
In other words, heās performing romantic gestures.
Once a guy does this – and especially when he starts spending money on a woman – itās another clear sign that youāre inside his head, he canāt stop thinking about you and he wants to make sure you know it.
Summary:
Is It True That If He Wants You He Will Pursue You?
A man will generally pursue a woman if he truly believes she is worth it. If youāve shown him a few signs that youāve got what heās looking for, thereās every chance heāll chase you, woo you – and ask you out over and over.
Heāll spend time getting to know you and put all the effort in. Youāre the girl for him!
However, if a man is insecure or doesnāt truly know what he wants, he might back away from pursuing you.
It might also be the case that, despite how much he wants you, heās scared of rejection.
He might also be a player whoās had second thoughts – he doesnāt want to chase you and then hurt you by walking away.
So if it’s clear that a man likes you, donāt always assume he will pursue you. While most men will, some – for various reasons – wonāt. However, another sign a man is pursuing you is your gut feeling. If your intuition is telling you this then don’t ignore it.
