13+ Signs He Doesn’t Want Anyone Else To Have You

It’s true, sometimes women can miss the signs a man is really into them.

We’re so conditioned to expect guys to make bold moves that when they don’t, we assume that they are not interested.

But as one of our readers shared, oftentimes it’s quite the opposite…the guy is head over heels but paralyzed by fear of ruining his chances. He likes you too much to risk scaring you off, so he freezes up.

If this sounds familiar, you’ve come to the right place! In this article, we’ll explore telling signs he doesn’t want anyone else to have you, even if he’s shy about making the first move.

Signs He Doesn’t Want Anyone Else To Have You:

1. He is Insecure About Your Male Friends

Listen, regardless of his level of confidence, he might still feel threatened by your male friends. 


If he is petrified by the idea that someone else might have you, he’ll see any other man as a threat. 

Even if you’ve known these friends for a while now, he might still not accept them. He might get jealous of them and try to prove that he’s better than anyone.

What’s more, he could try to replace their roles in your life. He’ll do that to show you that you don’t need the other guys. 

But how can you tell if he he has strong feelings for you and feels insecure and threatened?

Here are a few signs:

  • He lies to you or bends the truth in his favor;
  • He often fishes for compliments from you;
  • He tends to be very controlling.

2. He Wants To Know About Your Relationship History

If you’re wondering why he’s interested to find out more about your past relationships, the answer is simple: he wants to date your exclusively.

How so?

This isn’t pure curiosity, but a way for him to find out what you liked about your exes and what went wrong in your past committed relationships.

He needs this information to figure out how to behave with you and give you what you need. By doing this, he aims to understand you in a better way. 

Here’s the thing: If he does this, it’s a strong sign that he wants you to be his girlfriend soon.

However, there are exceptions! That’s why it’s important to look for more signs.

3. He Shares Details About His Previous Relationships

Did you know that when a man starts sharing details about his previous relationships he actually lets his guard down and becomes vulnerable?

It’s true!

But, at the same time, when a guy does that, it could mean other things, such as:

  • He is still in love with his ex;
  • You remind him of his ex;
  • He is testing your reaction.

As you can see, his behavior could be a sign he doesn’t want anyone else to have you and that’s why he opens up to you and tries to let you in. 

However, it could also be a sign that he still has feelings for her and he can’t help but talk about her.

4. He Includes You In His Plans For The Future

Let me ask you this: Is he making plans for the two of you only?

If so, it could be a sign that he doesn’t want anyone else to have you. He doesn’t want you to hang around with other dudes.

Now, if this is true, be aware! It might feel flattering when a man wants you all for himself.

However, this type of controlling behavior can be harmful to any relationship. 

Is he trying to control you? He is if

  • …he tries to manipulate you
  • …he tries to intimidate you
  • …he tries to isolate you from others

On top of that, if he wants you for himself, he’ll include you in his 5-year plan. He’ll paint a compelling picture for you without actually taking action at the moment.

5. He Treats You Like You’re The Only One For Him

Even if you’re not dating, or at least not officially, a guy can still treat you like you’re the only one for him.

Now, he might do this because he wants you to fall in love with him. Or, he might do it to keep you hooked.

Why? Because he doesn’t want anyone else to have you.

But are you really the only one for him?

Here’s how to tell:

  • He tries to make you feel good about yourself;
  • He doesn’t keep any secrets from you;
  • He is not interested in other women.

In addition, if he’s also generous with his time and spends a lot of it with you, you can take it as a sign. 

It could be a positive sign that he wants to be in a committed relationship with you, even if he’s not explicitly expressing it. 

6. He Wants Everyone To Know He’s Dating You

You are not dating. However, he tells everyone you know that he’s dating you. 

Can you relate?

If you can, it means he’s doing his best to keep others away from you. He may want you for himself, but he might have commitment issues. 

He might not know how to handle his feelings for you other than making sure no one else approaches you. 

7. He Makes An Effort To Become A Better Lover

When a guy also treats you like a queen in bed, he is definitely trying to impress you. 

Even if you’re not officially together, this could be his way to get you hooked on him. 

Maybe he really doesn’t want anyone else to have you and that’s why he tries to make you happy in various ways, including sexually.

So ask yourself the following questions: Is he always trying to please you in bed? Has he learned new tricks since you two started sleeping with each other?

If so, maybe he’s simply a good lover. Or, maybe his purpose is to give you all the satisfaction you need.

8. He Always Offers His Help When You Need It

Another sign he doesn’t want anyone else to have you is when he comes to your aid. He might offer his help whenever you mention you need something.

But why? Does he think you’re helpless?

While that may be the case with some women, it’s not the main reason. 

Typically, men offer their help because they don’t want someone else to help the woman they have a crush on and thus gain her attention. 

In other words, he wants to be someone you can rely on. He wants you to turn to him whenever you need help with something. 

9. He Remembers The Little Things

How can you tell if a guy likes you? 

He remembers the little things about you; the small details you mentioned in your conversations with him.

This could be due to his extraordinary memory, but most of the time it isn’t.

When a guy remembers your pet’s birthday, your favorite drink, and so on, he definitely likes you but is hiding it.

Why else would he go through the trouble of remembering the details of your stories and bringing them up naturally in your next conversations?

More signs he likes you but is hiding it:

  • He smiles when he sees you;
  • He tries to spend more time with you;
  • He asks a lot of questions about you

10. He Stays In Touch With Constant Texting

One way to stay on someone’s mind is to constantly interact with them.

So, if your guy keeps texting you, sending you messages on social media, tagging you in photos, and so on, it’s a good sign.

It’s a sign he wants to grab your attention and keep it. He could do this by sharing interesting posts and videos with you, or by simply reacting to everything you post.

  • Does this mean he’s genuinely interested in you?
  • Or, does he want to keep an eye on your online activity? 

Maybe both. But, there is a way to find out for sure!

Just go through his posts and check whether he maintains this kind of connection with other people.

If he showers other girls with the same kind of attention, you have your answer – he is playing you.

11. He Has Introduced You To His Family And Friends

Meeting a man’s family and friends is usually a big deal.

It means he wants you to be part of his life and meet the people dearest to him. 

Maybe he didn’t ask you to be his girlfriend yet – he could have his reasons. Even so, it appears that he wants you close. He wants you to hang out with him and his loved ones.

By doing so, he might want to make sure no one else has a chance with you – while he’s trying to figure out whatever is keeping him from committing to you.

However, I still have to warn you about players!

A player would do anything to fool the women he’s seeing, including introducing them to his family and friends.

12. He Doesn’t Like It When You Go Out With Someone Else

He doesn’t want to date you, but he doesn’t like it when you go out with someone else. What is it with this guy?

Well, the answer is simple: He can’t make up his mind about you, but he doesn’t want anyone else to have you either.

That’s kind of selfish, isn’t it?

Selfish or not, this is a reasonable explanation for his behavior. If he gets jealous when you mention going on a date with someone or simply hanging out with your guys, he likes you!

He might not be aware of the intensity of his feelings for you yet. Or, there could be countless other reasons why he does this. 

But, one thing is for sure: he wants you for himself.

13. He Breaks The Silence After Having A Fight

If you and this man ever had a fight, this sign is for you!

Admit it: It’s difficult to be the better person and reach out after a fight. It takes a lot of courage because the possibility of getting rejected is real.

However, if he was the one who reached out to you first, it’s a good sign!

He feared losing you more than he feared rejection. Who knows, maybe he thought you’d look for consolation in the arms of another man and couldn’t handle the thought of that.

Or, maybe he simply realized he make a mistake. To find out for sure, take a look at the next signs!

14. He Gets Nervous When You’re On The Phone With Someone

Are you ready to find out the truth about this guy’s intentions?

Another way to tell is if he gets nervous when you’re on the phone with someone. Especially if he doesn’t know who you’re talking to, this man doesn’t react positively.

He always asks you who was on the phone and expresses his desire not to talk to other people while you’re with him.

Is he insecure or just afraid?

Here are a few signs he’s afraid of losing you:

  • He always reaches out first after a fight;
  • He checks on you constantly;
  • He acts jealous.

But, how can he lose you if you’re not even together? Your relationship status might not define his feelings for you.

15. He Gives Mixed Signals

15. He Acts Hot And Cold With You

When a man acts hot and cold with you, he could do it on purpose. If he’s a player, he knows that acting cold toward you will make you want him even more. 

However, if he’s not, he may simply not be ready to commit. Or, he may be unsure of his feelings for you.

If that’s the case, he may change his behavior frequently, depending on his insecurity levels. So, if you notice that he frequently goes hot and cold with you, it’s not a good sign. 

Waiting for him to change his attitude again keeps you away from other possible love interests. And this could be exactly what he wants.

If He Wants Me So Bad Then Why Doesn’t He Commit?

In this regard, there are countless possible reasons. He might be busy with school or his career and he doesn’t have the needed time for a serious relationship.

It’s possible that, though he likes you, he is still not completely over his ex. It could also be that his last relationship ended so badly that now he is not ready to be emotionally vulnerable.

To confirm this, you’ll have to find out about his past relationship history.

You never know what could hold a man back from committing to a relationship with a woman he loves. But, if his reasons are legit, maybe he’s worth the wait.


Analyzing a man’s behavior is never easy, especially if you have feelings for him. That’s why you can rely on these signs to point you in the right direction. 

If he’s keeping you close without any real intention of committing to you in the future, you might have to face this hard truth and let him go. He might be a player and that’s what players do.

But, if he’s struggling with other issues in his life that keep him from committing to you or he’s still trying to figure out his feelings for you (or he could just be a shy guy), this guy might deserve a chance. Choose wisely!

Daniela Duca Damian
About Daniela Duca Damian

A journalist by profession, Daniela has been sharing her knowledge and personal experience in the psychology of love and relationships for the past 5 years. Her work is based on facts, practical advice and is meant to help everyone achieve their romantic goals. When she isn’t writing, she challenges her friends with meaningful questions about life.

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