Do you have a feeling the guy you’re seeing doesn’t want anyone else to have you?
You might be right! Although he didn’t clearly express his feelings for you yet or made a commitment to you, this doesn’t mean he doesn’t have feelings for you.
But how can you tell for sure?
Fortunately, there are some undeniable signs to help you understand your guy’s intentions.
Here are 20 signs he wants you for himself – even if he doesn’t know it yet:
1. He Feels Threatened By Your Male Friends
Listen, regardless of this guy’s level of confidence, he might still feel threatened by your male friends.
Why? If he is petrified by the idea that someone else might have you, he’ll see any other man as a threat.
Even if you know your male friends for a while now, he might still not accept them. He might get jealous of them and try to prove that he’s better than anyone.
What’s more, he could try to replace their roles in your life. He’ll do that to show you that you don’t need the other guys.
But how can you tell if he’s insecure or he has strong feelings for you and feels threatened? Here are a few signs:
- He lies to you or bends the truth in his favor;
- He often fishes for compliments from you;
- He tends to be very controlling.
2. He Wants To Know About Your Relationship History
If you’re wondering why he’s interested to find out more about your previous relationships, the answer is simple: he doesn’t want anyone else to have you.
How so? This isn’t pure curiosity, but a way for him to find out what you liked about your exes and what went wrong in your relationships.
He needs this information to figure out how to behave with you and give you what you need. By doing this, he aims to understand you in a better way.
Here’s the thing: If he does this, it’s a strong sign that he wants you to be his girlfriend soon.
However, there are exceptions! That’s why it’s important to look for more signs.
3. He Shares Details About His Previous Relationships
Did you know that when a man starts sharing details about his previous relationships he actually lets his guard down and becomes vulnerable?
It’s true! But, at the same time, when a guy does that, it could mean other things, such as:
- He is still in love with his ex;
- You remind him of his ex;
- He is testing your reaction.
As you can see, his behavior could be a sign he doesn’t want anyone else to have you and that’s why he opens up to you and tries to let you in.
However, it could also be a sign that he still has feelings for her and he can’t help but talk about her.
4. He Includes You In His Plans For The Future
Let me ask you this: Is he making plans for the two of you only?
If so, it could be a sign that he doesn’t want anyone else to have you. He doesn’t want to share you with anyone, not even with your family or friends.
Now, if this is true, be aware! It might feel flattering when a man wants you all for himself. However, this type of controlling behavior can be harmful to any relationship.
Is he trying to control you? He is if…
…he tries to manipulate you
…he tries to intimidate you
…he tries to isolate you from others
On top of that, if he wants you for himself, he’ll include you in his 5-year plan. He’ll paint a compelling picture for you without actually taking action at the moment.
5. He Treats You Like You’re The Only One For Him
Even if you’re not boyfriend and girlfriend, or at least not officially, a guy can still treat you like you’re the only one for him.
Now, he might do this because he wants you to fall in love with him. Or, he might do it to keep you hooked.
Why? Because he doesn’t want anyone else to have you.
But are you really the only one for him? Here’s how to tell:
- He tries to make you feel good about yourself;
- He doesn’t keep any secrets from you;
- He is not interested in other women.
6. He Tries To Make You Feel Like A Queen
Does he want you for himself? If he’s treating you like a queen, then he does!
A man who showers you with gifts and attention is most definitely into you. In addition, if he’s also generous with his time and spends a lot of it with you, you can take it as a sign.
It could be a positive sign that he wants to be in a committed relationship with you, even if he’s not clearly expressing it.
Let’s face it: We’re all lost when it comes to love and your guy could be in the same situation. Maybe this is the only way he knows to express his feelings.
7. He Makes An Effort To Become A Better Lover
When a guy also treats you like a queen in bed, he is definitely trying to impress you.
Even if you’re not officially together, this could be his way to get you hooked on him.
Maybe he really doesn’t want anyone else to have you and that’s why he tries to make you happy in various ways, including sexually.
So ask yourself the following questions: Is he always trying to please you in bed? Has he learned new tricks since you two started sleeping with each other?
If so, maybe he’s simply a good lover. Or, maybe his purpose is to give you all the satisfaction you need.
8. He Always Offers His Help When You Need It
Another sign he doesn’t want anyone else to have you is when he comes to your aid. He might offer his help whenever you mention you need something.
But why? Does he think you’re helpless?
While that may be the case with some women, it’s not the main reason.
Typically, men offer their help because they don’t want someone else to help the woman they have a crush on and thus gain her attention.
In other words, he wants to be someone you can rely on. He wants you to turn to him whenever you need help with something.
9. He Remembers The Little Things
How can you tell if a guy likes you?
He remembers the little things about you; the small details you mentioned in your conversations with him.
This could be due to his extraordinary memory, but most of the time it isn’t. When a guy remembers your pet’s birthday, your favorite drink, and so on, he definitely likes you but is hiding it.
Why else would he go through the trouble of remembering the details of your stories and bringing them up naturally in your next conversations?
More signs he likes you but is hiding it:
- He smiles when he sees you;
- He tries to spend more time with you;
- He asks a lot of questions about you
10. He Stays In Touch With Constant Texting
One way to stay on someone’s mind is to constantly interact with them. So, if your guy keeps texting you, sending you messages on social media, tagging you in photos, and so on, it’s a sign.
It’s a sign he wants to grab your attention and keep it. He could do this by sharing interesting posts and videos with you, or by simply reacting to everything you post.
Does this mean he’s genuinely interested in you? Or, does he want to keep an eye on your online activity?
Maybe both. But, there is a way to find out for sure!
Just go through his posts and check whether he maintains this kind of connection with other people. If he showers other girls with the same kind of attention, you have your answer – he is playing you.
11. He Has Introduced You To His Family And Friends
Meeting a man’s family and friends is usually a big deal. It means he wants you to be part of his life and meet the people dearest to him.
Maybe he didn’t ask you to be his girlfriend yet – he could have his reasons. Even so, it appears that he wants you close. He wants you to hang out with him and his loved ones.
By doing so, he might want to make sure no one else has a chance with you – while he’s trying to figure out whatever is keeping him from committing to you.
However, I still have to warn you about players! A player would do anything to fool the women he’s seeing, including introducing them to his family and friends.
12. He Doesn’t Like It When You Go Out With Someone Else
He doesn’t want to date you, but he doesn’t like it when you go out with someone else. What is it with this guy?
Well, the answer is simple: He can’t make up his mind about you, but he doesn’t want anyone else to have you either.
That’s kind of selfish, isn’t it?
Selfish or not, this is a reasonable explanation for his behavior. If he gets jealous when you mention going on a date with someone or simply hanging out with your male friends, he likes you!
He might not be aware of the intensity of his feelings for you yet. Or, there could be countless other reasons why he does this.
But, one thing is for sure: he wants you for himself.
13. He Breaks The Silence After Having A Fight
If you and this man ever had a fight, this sign is for you!
Admit it: It’s difficult to be the better person and reach out after a fight. It takes a lot of courage because the possibility of getting rejected is real.
However, if he was the one who reached out to you first, it’s a good sign!
He feared losing you more than he feared rejection. Who knows, maybe he thought you’d look for consolation in the arms of another man and couldn’t handle the thought of that.
Or, maybe he simply realized he make a mistake. To find out for sure, take a look at the next signs!
14. He Gets Nervous When You’re On The Phone With Someone
Are you ready to find out the truth about this guy’s intentions?
Another way to tell is if he gets nervous when you’re on the phone with someone. Especially if he doesn’t know who you’re talking to, this man doesn’t react positively.
He always asks you who was on the phone and expresses his desire not to talk to other people while you’re with him.
Is he insecure or just afraid? Here are a few signs he’s afraid of losing you:
- He always reaches out first after a fight;
- He checks on you constantly;
- He acts jealous.
But, how can he lose you if you’re not even together? Your relationship status might not define his feelings for you.
15. He Wants Everyone To Know He’s Dating You
You are not dating. However, he tells everyone you know that he’s dating you.
Can you relate? If you can, it means he’s doing his best to keep others away from you. He may want you for himself, but he might have commitment issues.
He might not know how to handle his feelings for you other than making sure no one else approaches you.
Men with commitment issues often fear they’re not enough for the person they love. They are also afraid to lose their freedom. And because of that, they often send mixed messages.
This might be the case with your guy.
16. He Keeps You Close But Doesn’t Want To Date You
The next sign to look out for when trying to figure out his intentions is this: he finds ways to keep you close without actually going on dates with you.
For example, maybe he focuses on the friends-with-benefits relationship between the two of you. Or, maybe he likes to casually meet you and do various activities with you.
The truth may be that he likes things the way they are between the two of you. He doesn’t want to change anything because your relationship works for him just the way it is.
17. He Wants To Take Things Very Slow
Let me ask you this: Is he playing the “let’s take things slow” card?
If he is, it might simply be a way to make sure no one else has a chance with you. In the meantime, he could try to figure out his real feelings for you, strengthen your relationship, or see other women.
There’s no way to know for sure why he feels the need to take things slow with you. In this regard, I encourage you to ask him.
Depending on his answer, you should be able to decide if he’s being honest or not.
18. He Likes You But He’s Not Over His Ex Yet
I mentioned before that when a guy talks about his previous relationship, the real reason could be that he’s not over his ex-girlfriend yet.
If he still has feelings for his ex, this could be stopping him from getting seriously involved with you.
Even if he likes you or has a crush on you, something is holding him back. He might feel confused and not know what to do.
How can you tell he’s not over his ex?
- He often mentions her in conversations;
- He still has some of her things;
- He says he’s not ready for a relationship.
If that’s the case, you might have to face a hard truth: he doesn’t want anyone else to have you, but he isn’t sure he wants you for himself either.
19. He Acts Hot And Cold With You
When a man acts hot and cold with you, he could do it on purpose. If he’s a player, he knows that acting cold toward you will make you want him even more.
However, if he’s not, he may simply not be ready to commit. Or, he may be unsure of his feelings for you.
If that’s the case, he may change his behavior frequently, depending on his insecurity levels. So, if you notice that he frequently goes hot and cold with you, it’s not a good sign.
Waiting for him to change his attitude again keeps you away from other possible love interests. And this could be exactly what he wants.
20. He Doesn’t Commit Because Something Is Holding Him Back
The last sign he doesn’t want anyone else to have you is when he has feelings for you, but for some reason, he can’t be in a relationship with you.
In this regard, there are countless possible reasons. He might be busy with school or his career and he doesn’t have the needed time for a serious relationship.
Or, maybe he is going through some financial problems and has other people in his care, such as elderly parents, brothers and sisters, and so on.
You never know what could hold a man back from committing to a relationship with a woman he loves. But, if his reasons are legit, maybe he’s worth the wait.
Then What Does He Want?
Analyzing a man’s behavior is never easy, especially if you have feelings for him. That’s why you can rely on these signs to point you in the right direction.
If he’s keeping you close without any real intention of committing to you in the future, you might have to face this hard truth and let him go. He might be a player and that’s what players do.
But, if he’s struggling with other issues in his life that keep him from committing to you or he’s still trying to figure out his feelings for you (or he could just be a shy guy), this guy might deserve a chance. Choose wisely!