You like someone but you’re in torment because you don’t know whether they like you back or not. You think they probably don’t like you – but you’re not sure.
We get it – it’s a horrible situation to be in. If you could figure out whether they like you or not, you can move on.
Fortunately, guys and girls are often like an open book. If you know how to read them, you can spot the signs that tell you everything you need to know.
In this article, we’ll be taking a look at the top 13 signs that your crush doesn’t like you.
We’ll also be showing you what you can do to improve this situation so that you’re able to move on from them.
13 Clear Signs Your Crush Doesn’t Like You
1. There Is No Effort Of Any Kind
Does your crush ask you out? Do they arrange dates and times to meet up?
Or is it you that’s doing all the asking?
And what about your conversations – is it you that seems to be sending lots of lines of text while they just send a single-line reply every time?
And even then it takes them ages to reply. You, on the other hand, always reply to their texts within a few minutes.
Your crush then leaves it for hours – maybe even over a day.
It’s as relationship expert and author Rachel Wagner points out: “If your person isn’t talking to you or is barely talking to you, they’re probably not your person.”
2. They Make Sure You Know You’re Just a Friend
Have you ever had conversations with your crush that you wouldn’t have with someone who’s just a friend?
If the answer is “no” it’s a sign that they don’t like you more than just a friend.
For example, perhaps they’ve never flirted with you or sexted you. And when you have tried to initiate flirting, they go cool.
Maybe they haven’t ever shared intimate details of their life with you either, and maybe they’ve never asked to see you one on one.
In other words, when you hang out it’s usually with other people.
3. They Are Not Vulnerable With You
If a man likes a woman (and vice-versa), he will do something he rarely does with anyone else: He will make himself vulnerable.
What does this look like?
For a man or woman to make himself vulnerable with the other person, it means that he/she is sharing things with them that reveal their true self. Maybe they’ll confide in their partner about their biggest dreams, their biggest fears and their biggest regrets.
Maybe they’ll share tragic stories about their family or friends, such as the loss of a loved one.
They’ll do this because they trust that person and see them as a safe space. They can be their true self with them.
They can even cry in front of them.
If your crush hasn’t done any of this with you yet but has always kept the conversation light, it’s a sign that they don’t like you as more than a friend.
4. They Don’t Exhibit Signs of Open Body Language
Non-verbal communication (body language) is just as important as verbal communication.
In fact, it might even be more important.
Pay attention to how your crush acts around you. Are they crossing his arms, keeping themselves at a distance from you and leaning back in their chair?
If so, these are all signs of closed body language – and it can mean they aren’t emotionally invested in you.
On the other hand, if they caress their hair when they’re with you, touch you – even fleetingly – and lean forward during the conversation, it could mean that your crush likes you. A lot.
Indeed, research has shown that a fleeting touch is a sign that your crush is expressing deeper emotions with you. If they’re head over heels in love with you, they won’t just give you a quick hug when it’s time to leave – they’ll hold you in their warm embrace.
5. They Always Seem Too Busy For You
As well as being too busy to hang out with you, look out for signs that your crush is just too busy to even text you.
For example, let’s say you text them on Sunday morning. By Monday morning, they still haven’t replied.
Your crush finally gets back in touch Monday evening but the text is short and closed-ended.
When you call them, they never answer and rarely call back. Instead, they might shoot you a text 24 hours later to say “hey, sorry I missed your call, I was busy.”
There’s zero indication that they’re willing to call you back or even find out what you wanted!
These are all signs that your crush got a lot going on in their life – and it probably doesn’t involve you.
6. They Don’t Light Up When They See You
It isn’t hard to spot when someone is excited to see us. There’s a light in their eyes and their smile is genuine!
If you don’t see any of this whenever your crush sees you, it’s time to stop looking for it. It isn’t there.
The reason it isn’t there is that your crush just doesn’t like you in that way.
Sure, they might perk up as the conversation goes along and they might smile and laugh. But if a man likes a girl, he will always light up when he first sees her, despite whatever mood he is in at the time.
7. They Don’t Behave As You Do With Them
Think about how you act around your crush. Do you flirt with them, ask them questions, or stutter over your words (because you’re nervous)?
And how do they respond? Do they flirt back or just grin and change the subject?
Do they answer your questions without asking anything in return?
Are they even curious about you at all?
And if they aren’t nervous one iota (but instead seem super composed, calm and confident), it’s also another sign that you’re not on the same level. If a man really fancies a girl (and vice-versa), it doesn’t matter how confident he usually is – there will always be some nerves.
8. They Fail to Recall Minor Details About You
It might seem to some people that it’s only trivial if a man can’t remember minor details about a woman – or a woman can’t remember things about a man. But for you – and all girls and guys – it means something.
If your crush likes you, they will remember even the most minor things about your life, including your favourite movies and your favourite musical artists.
And they’ll especially remember your birthday.
If this guy doesn’t remember any of these details, it doesn’t mean he’s a terrible person or a terrible friend – but it does mean that he isn’t interested in you romantically.
9. They’re Romantically Involved With Other Individuals
Imagine if your crush said to you “oh, there’s someone I like, we’re sort of seeing each other but I think it’s coming to an end.”
You might get a little bit excited that they’re confiding in you.
The cold hard truth is that they’re romantically involved with other people – which isn’t a good sign for your chances with them.
What’s more, you might spot your crush using the same dating apps as you. That’s totally fine but it means that they’re spending time with other people romantically.
10. They Don’t Give You a Second Glance
Ever been caught out sneaking a second (or even a third) glance at someone you find attractive?
Maybe you blushed and felt guilty.
But so what? You liked them and were admiring them!
And here’s the thing: Any guy or girl who crushes on someone will steal a second glance at them.
So if you’ve noticed that this person never sneaks a peek at you when they think you’re not looking, it could be because they just aren’t attracted to you.
11. They Feel No Hesitation In Approaching You
As we mentioned earlier, anyone – no matter how confident they are normally – will feel some nerves around a person they like.
Because they don’t want to mess this up! They’ll make mistakes, stutter over their words and maybe even drop something.
There’s also a very strong chance that they will hesitate about approaching you.
If, on the other hand, this person feels totally at ease at all times around you, it’s probably because they don’t feel the need to act nervously around you. And that can mean that they just don’t like you in that way.
12. They Don’t Laugh At Your Jokes
It’s pretty humiliating when someone doesn’t laugh at our jokes.
It’s even worse when our crush doesn’t laugh at our jokes.
If a person really likes you, they will laugh at your jokes even when they’re not funny. After all, they want you to know they like you and they don’t want you to feel humiliated.
So if your jokes aren’t landing? It’s a sign that your crush doesn’t find you funny – and they don’t like you enough to at least pretend that they find you funny.
13. They Are Not Responsive to Your Social Media Content
Social media can give you a massive clue as to how much someone likes you.
If you post content and they engage with it – such as “liking” your posts or leaving comments – it’s a strong sign that they’re interested in you. Perhaps they’ll post on your wall on Facebook, too, as well as read all your Instagram Stories.
If, on the other hand, they literally never engage with your social media content, it’s a bad sign. Sure, the algorithm might mean that they don’t see it – but it’s unlikely.
Put it this way: If a person is into you, they will make sure that they see your social media content.
And men are just like girls in that they’ll use social media to drop subtle hints that they like you (basically, they will like your stuff and leave comments).
How Should You React To Improve Your Situation?
- Acknowledge and Process Your Feelings: Identify how you’re feeling if you’ve learned that your crush doesn’t feel the same way about you. Put a name on these feelings and accept them.
- Give Yourself Time (Focus on Yourself): Take a time-out from your crush and other people and use the time to focus on a bit of self-loving. Reconnect with who you are and what you most enjoy in life.
- Keep Your Distance From Your Crush: Stop texting them (block their number and social media profiles if necessary). Don’t attempt to call them but stay as far away from them as you can.
- Keep An Open Mind: Even if this is one person that got away, it doesn’t mean all people are the same. Stay open-minded about folk and get out there and meet new people!