15 Ways to Show a Girl You’re Serious About Her

What are some of the ways you can show a girl you’re serious about her?

When words are not enough and you want to go the extra mile to express your intentions with a girl, you have to play by the book. 

Below, you’ll find 15 ways to show a girl you’re serious about her.

Not only it will make your girlfriend feel special but it will significantly increase your chances to reach your goal with her.

So, what are you waiting for?

It’s never too soon to treat her right to show her you’re serious about her! 

15 Ways to Show a Girl You’re Serious About Her

1. Use her love language to show her you care

To make sure that your message reaches her in the way you want, marriage therapist Dr. Gary Chapman comes to your aid.

After working for decades with couples, he discovered that each of us has a main love language. More specifically, there are certain ways we express love and want others to express love for us.

If you manage to figure out her love language, you can use it to show her that you’re serious about her. 

What are the 5 love languages?

  • Words of affirmation – She wants to hear how much you love her, like her, appreciate her, and desire her.
  • Receiving gifts – She feels your love when you go out of your way to give her gifts and buy presents for her.
  • Acts of service – She truly notices how much you care when you do things to help her and make her life easier.
  • Physical touch – There’s no better proof of love for her than when you hold her close and touch her constantly.
  • Spend quality time together – Offering her your undivided attention is what she needs from you to feel loved.

If you’re clueless, do this: Try all of them and figure out which one works best for her based on her reaction.

2. Post photos of the two of you on your social media

How to show a girl you’re serious about her? By telling the world that she’s the only woman in your life. 

And by telling the world I mean posting on your social media about it. You know what they say, a picture is worth 1000 words, so don’t shy away from posting photos of the two of you together. 

You will melt her heart and make her feel that you’re proud of being with her. In turn, she’ll take this as a definite sign you’re serious about her. 

Nowadays, not sharing info about dating or being in a relationship on social media could mean that you’re purposely hiding it, which is not good news.

3. Introduce her to the closest people to you

What does it really mean to be serious about a girl? It means you want her in your life for the long run, right?

If that’s true, what you need to do is introduce her to the other important people in your life, such as your friends and family. 

When you truly want to include a woman in your life, you should consider spending time with her and your friends and giving them the chance to get to know each other. 

The same goes for your family members. Do your best to make her feel welcome and show her that her presence is highly desired.

4. Offer to create joint accounts and share subscription costs

If you really are serious about her, here’s an idea: streamline your subscriptions. 

Ask her if she wants to use the same Prime Video, ShyShowtime, HBO GO, Netflix (or anything else you have in mind) account with you.

Or, in case she’s already paying for, let’s say Hulu, but you don’t have an account, maybe she’ll want to share it with you and the expenses as well.

This could show her that you’re not planning on leaving anywhere and also help both of you spend less money on the same service.

If you think about it, this could be the first smart decision for your future together.

5. Send her cute texts from time to time

Look, I have no idea what your girlfriend’s love language is, but I can tell you this: Any woman would appreciate a cute text from her boyfriend from time to time. 

Cute texts show you’re thinking about her and they can be a way of showing her what you really feel about her. 

But wait, what would you say?

Here are some ideas to show a girl you’re serious about her through texting:

  • I woke up smiling again this morning. I think you’re to blame for this.
  • My idea of having fun used to be so complicated. Now all I need is you.
  • I am falling for you more and more every day. I didn’t think that was possible.
  • You’re most amazing person I’ve met in my life.

6. Talk about common goals and make a plan to achieve them

Depending on where you are in life, you two might want to get into a good college, get a promotion, a better job, and so on. 

Or, maybe you both want to get in better shape by going to the gym and shedding some pounds. 

Regardless of what your goals are, if they’re common, express your desire to make plans and achieve them together.

This works when you want to show a girl you’re serious about her because you’re basically committing to doing something with her that’s not going to happen overnight. 

The more time and determination required, the better.

7. Surprise Her Every Now and Then

There are a lot of romantic ways to express your love to your girl time to time. For example, you could write her a lover letter, massage her head while watching a TV show, and buy gifts.

Alternatively, you could do arrange outdoor activities such as scuba diving, hiking, and bungee jumping.

It will make her loved and create lasting memories.

8. Respect her boundaries and values even if you don’t agree

Do you really care about this girl or do you simply like the way she makes you feel?

Be cautious because your own feelings can deceive you. However, you don’t need to worry because there is a way to tell.

When you truly value someone, you feel compelled to accept and respect their boundaries, as well as values. You don’t ignore their boundaries or make fun of what they believe in. 

So, to show her you care, don’t text her after midnight if she specifically told you that her bedtime is 11 PM. 

Or, don’t try to convince her to do things she told you she’s not comfortable with. That would only show her that you put yourself first.

9. Show her you’re a dependable guy she can rely on

How experienced are you when it comes to relationships?

If you’ve been in a serious relationship before, then you know how important it is to be able to count on your partner. 

That’s an incredible feeling which can help make any relationship stronger. So, to make your intentions known, show her you’re dependable and reliable.

In other words, don’t make promises that you can’t keep, help her out in any way you can, and always be there for her.

If you’re serious about her, then you should be her go-to person whenever she needs you, not only when it’s convenient for you.

10. Make sacrifices for her and your relationship

Is your girlfriend sick, but there’s a killer rave in town that you simply cannot miss?

In such a situation, you have to choose her. Unless you want to show her that you’re NOT serious about her, you can’t simply ignore her health problem and go to a party.

Or, is your girlfriend sad, but you have a get-together planned with your friends?

The obvious choice is also her. You see, you have to make sacrifices in the sense that sometimes, you have to give up on the things that you want to do and be there for her. 

Or, does she need to borrow money, but you’re saving for a new PC?

In case your intentions with her are very serious, you should consider helping her.

For example, you could cook dinner for when is tired or sick.

11. Take her out on dates and do fun things with her

Pay attention to this point because it’s going to be useful not only now, but also in the future. 

To make a woman feel appreciated and to keep the spark between you always lit, you should never stop flirting with her, taking her out on dates, and doing fun things with her.

Of course, the effort has to be mutual, but if you decided to take the matter into your own hands, then do some thinking and some planning. 

Try to share the most amazing experiences with her as well as simple moments. This will strengthen your relationship and make her believe in a future with you.

12. Express your gratitude when she does something for you

If you appreciate this woman and she constantly does nice things for you or helps you out, express your gratitude with compliments and romantic gestures!

Don’t keep these feelings pilling up inside you. She can’t read your mind. On top of that, if you take the time to tell her all these, she’ll clearly feel important. 

Even if all she did was spend an hour talking on the phone with you, you can thank her for your time and for making you feel good.

When you want to build trust with a girl, all these little things matter more than you think.

13. Show her you’re serious by talking about the future

Another very effective way to show how committed you really are to a woman is to make plans with her. It shows that things are no more casual.

For example, you could talk about the places you’d like to visit together. Or, you can plan to attend various family events together. 

Or, it can be something entirely different. Not all couples have the time or the money to travel or to focus on having a good quality time. 

In this regard, you could ask her what she thinks about marriage, and having kids, and also share your views with her. 

This talk alone could lead her to believe that you’re dead serious about being with her.

14. Be affectionate with her, even in public

Similar to sharing pics of you two on Facebook, Instagram, and so on, being affectionate with her in public could have the same effect.

Why? Because this shows that you feel proud to have her by your side and you’re not ashamed to express your feelings for her in front of others. 

By doing so, she’ll also feel protected and safe. Holding hands alone could make her feel more relaxed and open with you.

However, don’t go too far with your proof of affection. You can leave the French kissing and indiscreet touching for when you’re alone.

15. Do whatever you can to help her achieve her goals

Yes, you got it right! To show how serious you are when it comes to your intentions with a woman, you have to be reliable, dependable, helpful, and supportive, of course!

I’m not going to lie… your goal is not easy to achieve and it will take a lot of work and determination from your side. 

What I mean is, you can’t sit back and watch how she struggles to do something when you know that you can help her. 

Especially if she asks for your help, you should take this chance to make your intentions known. She’ll know you’re serious if you make an effort for her.

16. Just Tell her how serious you really are about her

In the end, to make sure that she got your message right, you could simply tell her how you really feel about her. 

If her love language is words of affection, then you’ll go straight to the point with just words. However, make sure you’re not saying anything deceiving. 

Only promise to do things that you know you can do. Don’t say things just to impress her. 

Express your desire to take things to the next level with her and see how she reacts. 


Convincing a girl that your intentions with her are honorable and you truly are serious about her can seem like a lot of work. 

So, before you give up without trying, let me stop you right there and tell you this: You don’t have to do all of the above at once. 

You can start with the ones you feel most comfortable with and then switch them up. As long as your effort is constant, you’ll definitely achieve your goal!

Daniela Duca Damian
About Daniela Duca Damian

A journalist by profession, Daniela has been sharing her knowledge and personal experience in the psychology of love and relationships for the past 5 years. Her work is based on facts, practical advice and is meant to help everyone achieve their romantic goals. When she isn’t writing, she challenges her friends with meaningful questions about life.

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