Dreaming about an ex can be a confusing and emotional experience.
Especially if such dreams take you by surprise and you have no idea what they mean, they could affect your waking life.
That’s why it’s important to analyze your dreams both from a psychological and spiritual perspective.
The universe and/or your subconscious mind are definitely trying to send you a message. Like what?
The possibilities are endless since dreams are filled with symbols and hidden meanings. One thing is for sure, though: something is going on.
There is a reason your ex appears to you while you sleep. The sooner you figure it out, the better.
Don’t know where to start? Read on for 13 spiritual meanings of dreaming about your ex:
13 Spiritual Reasons Meaning You’re Dreaming About Your Ex You Don’t Talk to Anymore
1. It’s a sign the universe wants you two together
The universe works in mysterious ways. To this day, we still don’t know for sure whether there is a higher force that somehow keeps things under control.
However, due to the occurrence of synchronicities and inexplicable dreams, we shouldn’t completely dismiss the idea.
Wait, what are synchronicities? They are seemingly random occurrences that actually mean something.
Let’s say that you have a dream about your ex in which you’re back together and feel amazing. Then, you suddenly wake up. When you check the time, you notice repeated numbers, such as 3:33, or, 11:11.
Such a dream, followed by a sequence of numbers can be a message from the universe to you. It could tell you to reach out to your ex.
Is there a way to know for sure? As you probably know, numbers have meaning. So, to figure out whether the universe encourages you to contact your ex, you’ll have to do some research.
Watch out for the symbols in your dream as well. Symbols of love are hearts, golden arrows, apples, swans, starfishes, and so on.
2. A soul tie connects you and your ex
Was the connection between you and your former partner inexplicably deep?
Did you feel a strong pull towards them without knowing why?
If so, it indicates that you might have a soul tie with them. Now, there is more than one type of soul connection.
For example, he or she could be your karmic partner. This means you were involved in a romantic relationship with them in a past life. The reason you met them again is that they needed to teach you a lesson.
Or, your ex could be your soulmate. Soulmates are believed to be souls part of the same soul family. They’re not your other half. You simply share a strong and spiritual connection with them.
Lastly, you and them could be twin flames. Twin flames are actually two parts of the same soul. According to the legend, Zeus split you in two a long, long time ago and your mission is to find each other and unite into oneness.
Your spiritual bond could be the reason you’re dreaming about them. That’s why you can’t let each other go.
3. You are picking up on your ex’s feelings
In case you and your former partner spent a lot of time together and got really intimate emotionally and physically speaking, then there’s a chance the connection between the two of you is still strong.
Or, if your souls are somehow connected, then you might still be in tune with each other. Let me explain:
When you dream about them, that’s not a product of your subconscious mind. It’s actually them, thinking about you intensely.
Especially if you’re an empath and you didn’t shut your ex off completely, you might still pick up on their feelings.
So, if you don’t recognize the emotions and the things that happen in the dream as your own, here’s what it could mean: They are not yours. You are in tune with theirs.
4. Your ex is on your mind a lot throughout the day
According to the Neurocognitive Theory, when you dream, what really happens is your brain tries to process your memories.
So, the reason you’re dreaming about your ex-partner is that you keep thinking about them while you’re awake.
You keep reminding yourself of them, what you went through, the happy times, and the bad times as well.
If that’s true, then your dream’s spiritual meaning could be that you haven’t severed the connection you had with them completely.
This could happen if the breakup is fresh and you haven’t dealt with your emotions entirely. Or, if something goes on in your life right now that triggers memories of him or her.
5. You haven’t found closure after the breakup
There’s another theory you might find interesting, namely the Psychodynamic Theory. According to it, when you dream, the communication lines with your subconscious mind are open.
This means that your subconscious is trying to provide you with valuable information about various topics.
For example, your spirit could still be crushed due to the breakup. Maybe you think you’ve moved on, but instead, you buried lots of negative emotions deep down inside of you.
Well, the things that you tried to ignore may resurface in your dream. In case you haven’t found closure, your subconscious mind could urge you to do so.
Especially if your dreams are scary or tormenting you, that’s a clear sign you’re not at peace with how things went down.
Not being able to accept the breakup or not knowing why you had to split are things that could prevent you from moving on.
6. You are afraid of getting heartbroken again
Have you ever considered that dreaming about an ex may have nothing to do with them, but rather with one of your fears?
Maybe your former partner broke your heart and you felt so miserable that you never thought you were going to be fine ever again.
Now, you may associate the fear of getting heartbroken with them. Your fight or flight response may kick in whenever your instinct picks up a similar threat.
Sometimes, you don’t have to consciously think about your fears. If they’re not dealt with, they’ll keep reappearing one way or the other, including in your dreams.
A seemingly innocent and unimportant passing thought such as “That guy/girl is cute” could lead to such a nighttime occurrence.
Ways to cope with your fears are: acknowledge them, face your fears, think about them in a rational way, and imagine the best and worst outcomes.
Ultimately, accept that you can’t control everything that happens.
7. You miss your ex or parts of the relationship
Whether you want to admit to yourself or not, you miss your ex. Otherwise, why would you dream about them?
Even if the end of your relationship was devastating, this doesn’t mean it was all bad. You probably liked many parts of your relationship that you now miss.
To understand this spiritual meaning, you have to pay attention to every detail of your dream, as well as how you’re feeling during it.
By doing so, you’ll figure out what you miss the most…
… the times when you laughed together
… how they made you feel safe and understood
… when you tried things together for the first time
… he or she giving you long and warm hugs
8. It’s a sign of something negative in your life
Let me ask you a question: Do you associate your ex with feelings of sadness, frustration, and unfulfillment?
If you do, it means their occurrence in your sleep is symbolic. In other words, when something in the waking world is making you feel frustrated, it’s highly likely that you’ll dream about your former partner.
His or her presence in your dream indicates that something is making you unhappy. Do you know what’s the source of your unhappiness?
If you do and you want to stop seeing your ex every time you go to sleep, then do your best to make some changes.
Remove any source of unhappiness from your life, be it a person or a bad habit. Your spirit needs it!
9. Your dream is more about you than them
Romantic relationships bring out the best and the worst in us. Let’s focus on the worst.
If, for example, you caused a huge scene just because you were jealous and that event led to the breakup, you may have a hard time accepting it.
It’s hard to process something like that. I get it. You knew about your tendency to get jealous, but you never thought you’d be capable of lashing out in such an ugly way.
You still can’t and that’s why your subconscious mind is trying to make you pay attention.
Jealousy is a feeling based on fear and insecurity, both of which are problems that you must deal with and overcome.
The universe and/or your subconscious mind communicate through symbols and your ex could symbolize something about yourself that you’re not proud of and would like to change.
Or, they might bring something else to the front: something you either admire or despise about your ex.
10. Your ex is actually your soulmate
Look, maybe you are connected to your former SO by an invisible thread and that’s why they keep showing up in your dreams.
How can you tell for sure they’re your soulmate?
- You dream about them frequently.
- You are not together anymore for a long time.
- You sometimes feel how they’re feeling.
- It’s like they’re trying to tell you something in a dream.
- You almost feel their physical presence in your sleep.
- When you first met, you felt like you already knew each other.
- The chemistry between you two was off the charts.
- You never felt anything like it for anyone before.
11. You are ready for a new relationship
As strange as it may seem, another spiritual meaning of your dream is that you’re ready for a new relationship.
Before you get into it, though, it would be best to reflect on the old one. It’s important to remember what went wrong, what mistakes you made, and how it made you feel.
Only after you process all of these again you’ll stop dreaming about your ex and you’ll be ready to commit to someone else with a clean slate.
It could also be a spiritual sign that your soul is healed and ready to connect to another.
12. You are comparing your ex with a new partner
Comparing your new partner with your former one is common. You shouldn’t feel bad about doing it.
It’s not really fair to compare two different people and decide which one is best because we’re all so different. However, you can compare the way your new boyfriend or girlfriend makes you feel compared to your ex-partner.
If you don’t do this during your waking hours, you’ll most certainly do it while you sleep. That’s when your ex will show up in various instances.
For example, if your new bae doesn’t pay as much attention to your satisfaction in bed as your old one or is less experienced, you could have an erotic dream with your ex.
But, this doesn’t mean that you’re not over them spiritually or otherwise. It doesn’t mean you miss the sex.
What you’re visualizing is something that sets them apart. This may happen because you are not convinced the person you’re currently dating is right for you.
13. You’re afraid you won’t find a better partner
Are you still hooked up on him or her? The simple fact that you dream about them doesn’t point to that.
But, it could point to issues related to your self-esteem. Especially if they left you, you might feel that you weren’t good enough for them.
And if that’s true, then how could you be enough for someone else, let alone someone better?
You might not want to acknowledge that while you’re awake, and that’s why you dream about your former SO.
Your soul wants to break free and love another, but your mind keeps it trapped due to your low self-esteem.
How To Stop Dreaming About Your Ex?
Unless you and your ex form a cosmic couple that’s meant for greatness, you probably want to move on with your life and stop dreaming about them.
Rest assured, there are ways to make that happen. Be prepared to make some efforts, though! Completely getting an ex out of your system isn’t exactly easy.
Here are the steps you need to follow:
- Identify your feelings and process them – Make sure you’re at peace with the breakup and try to deal with your insecurities and fears.
- Avoid anything that might trigger your dreams – Get rid of anything that reminds you of your former partner and avoid the places where you used to go together.
- Focus on practicing self-care – Get enough sleep, eat well, exercise, and do things that make you happy. Pick up new hobbies and spend time with friends.
- Focus on the present – Think about all the good things in your life and focus on achieving your professional and personal goals. Focus on feeling good right now.
- Seek professional help – If you feel overwhelmed by emotion and your dreams are recurring, you shouldn’t hesitate to seek professional help. There’s no shame in not being able to handle your feelings in a healthy way.
But what if you and your ex are truly meant to be?
If that’s the case, then the universe will do a lot more to bring you back together than communicate through dreams. Like what? You’ll know it when you see it.