Break ups are hard. Theyâre ugly and messy, and they make us experience countless negative emotions that bring out the worst in us.
The lingering feelings of a past relationship are sometimes so intense that they can determine us to act in unhealthy and immature ways.
Like what? Making our exes jealous, of course! Thatâs something we are all more or less inclined to do after a break up.
Especially if we think weâve been mistreated, played with, and/or betrayed, the idea of getting even with them or retaliating – one way or the other – sounds very appealing.
Thatâs why I want to assure you that I wonât judge you for wanting to make your ex jealous. They probably deserve it!
What Should You Avoid While Trying to Make Your Ex Feel Jealous?
But if you really want to go down that road, a word of caution: Try not to get others involved in your drama. To be more precise, avoid dating other people just to make your ex realize what theyâve lost.
No one is going to blame you if you casually see other people and focus on having fun. However, if you get tangled in a new relationship, that could cause complications.
On the one hand, it might lower your chances of getting back together with him or her. You may not want that now, but this doesnât mean that you wonât change your mind.
On the other hand, you might get yourself into another complicated situation. I am talking about one that involves mixed feelings, a sort of love triangle that should be avoided.
That being said, I am happy to share with you 12 efficient ways to make your ex jealous. Are you ready to take action? Letâs begin!
11+ Ways to Make Your Ex Jealous:
1. Start living your best life
To make your ex jealous you need to show them you’re unfazed, unbothered by the break up. It will be your best revenge.
Hereâs the thing: People who live life on their own terms and explore their full potential are highly desirable.
If you manage to show them what theyâre missing out on, you might get a powerful response.
How? Start living your best life! Do this for yourself and others (including your former partner) will react accordingly.
Simply put, when you start focusing on yourself, your well-being, and your personal improvement, youâll naturally become more attractive to others.
And when that happens, your ex will notice and they will feel extremely jealous.
2. Post eye-catching photos
Do you want to strike your ex-partner with jealousy and leave them smitten at the same time? Then remind them how good-looking and physically appealing you really are.
It doesnât matter if youâre a guy or a girl. This trick works because theyâll think you are handling the break up wonderfully.
They wonât assume youâre feeling miserable if you look especially alluring every time they see a photo of you.
Want to go the extra mile? If you really want to get under your exâs skin, try to deceive them and share photos of you and other people (someone theyâll see as a potential partner for you).
For example, if theyâve always been jealous of a coworker, you canât go wrong if you take a friendly photo of yourself and that person.
A mysterious man or woman works as well! Your ex wonât be able to stop wondering who that person really is. They might even start obsessing over it.
3. Work on improving your body
As I was saying at #1, working on yourself and improving yourself is a big part of making ex jealous.
Your aim here is to make them see someone they want, but canât have; someone who was theirs, but no longer is.
One of the most obvious and healthy ways to do it is by being an active person who exercises frequently and watches their diet.
Look, Iâm not telling you to go on a diet. Transforming your body for the wrong reasons, such as your ex jealous, is not recommended.
Iâm suggesting making small changes in your routine so that you get in a good shape. Maybe youâve heard of the amazing benefits working out can have on your body and mind.
A person who exercises regularly isnât only better looking and healthier, but they are also happier and have good self esteem.
4. Embrace the âno contactâ rule
The âno contactâ rule is a popular âget your ex-backâ technique. So, if youâre also planning on getting him or her back after making your ex jealous, read on!
What do you have to do? The rule is pretty self-explanatory: Donât initiate contact with them (for a few weeks) and also donât respond to their attempts either.
I know⌠itâs easier said than done. Especially if you feel heartbroken right now and you somehow deal with the pain by seeking revenge, the last thing you want is NOT talking to them.
You might even ask yourself, âWonât this help him/her move on faster?â Trust me, the âno contactâ rule is meant to do just the opposite.
It works because we are built in a strange way that determines us to want something/someone more just because we think we canât have them/it.
If you ignore your ex, theyâll be even more curious about how youâre feeling and how youâre dealing with the break up.
He or she will imagine all sorts of scenarios that will make them go through feelings of bitterness and envy.
5. Make them wait for a reaction
In case you canât use the âno contactâ rule with your ex because of various serious reasons, but you still want to make your ex jealous, then hereâs what you should do:
- Take your time to reply to their calls/texts/DMs.
- Donât treat them as if they are still a priority.
- Answer using a neutral tone and stick to the point.
- Donât reveal your real emotions to them.
- Make it look as if you donât care about them.
- Keep yourself busy for real and give them no importance.
By doing so, youâll make your ex jealous of you.
Theyâll wonder: How come youâre doing good and theyâre not? What/who keeps you busy all of a sudden?
Appearances matter, especially in your quest. But if you do this for real, youâll kill two birds with one stone: youâll actually move on and live a more fulfilling life, and youâll also make them regret losing you.
6. Donât engage with their SM content
Do you know that saying, âno answer is also an answerâ? If you do, then you must agree that the same goes for, âno reaction is also a reaction.â
Engaging with your exâs social media content is a definite no-no because of multiple reasons, such as:
- They might be provoking you with their posts and you donât even realize it.
- Their posts could be meant to trigger various feelings inside you.
- Any reaction from you would mean that you still care about him/her.
- He or she will think you are not over them and still look at their posts.
- They might try to manipulate you and stop you from moving on.
Your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend could have a hidden agenda as well.
So, do your best not to let your own intentions blind you.
7. Spend time with your mutual friends
The simple fact that you go out with friends and have a good time with them has the potential to make your ex jealous.
How so? Until not long ago, you two used to have fun together. But now thatâs no longer possible because youâre not together anymore.
Instead, you seem to have an amazing time without them. You spend time with your friends doing various activities and even visiting new places.
You can even take it a notch up by hanging out with that “just a friend” friend or with a completely new friend of opposite sex.
They will also be left wondering if you already had interest in this new person and it will drive them crazy.
Overall, It’s fantastic way to make your ex jealous and feel like theyâre missing out. Since theyâre probably not doing the same, jealousy will creep in.
Want to make sure he or she finds out about every little adventure you have? Post photos!
Even if youâre not friends anymore on Facebook or follow each other on Insta, you can still see each otherâs posts due to having mutual acquaintances.
8. Take a new person out on a date
Are you still really mad at your ex and youâre looking for a way to hit them below the belt? Iâve got you covered!
DOs:
- Write down all the special places where you used to go with your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend.
- Choose one or more meaningful places and then move on to the next step.
- Think about who you could go there with – play it safe and go with someone you know, but they donât.
- Take pictures, or⌠it didnât happen. Pose with that attractive person you go out with.
- Post the pics on Insta or some other SM platform where you think theyâll see them.
But before you do this, I urge you to reconsider: Are you really that type of person who purposely hurts someone?
I donât know what happened between two of you⌠Even so, I think itâs safe to assume that whatever they did, they didnât do it on purpose.
9. Follow the people they already follow on Insta
Since your online activity might not be as visible to them as it was before due to the fact that you unfollowed each other (like on Instagram), you have to do something about it.
If they canât see your posts and pics, then your efforts could be in vain. To make sure that doesnât happen, you should follow the people he already follows on Insta.
The more you engage with their content and the other way around, the better. But wait, thereâs more!
If you do this, youâll basically make your presence felt all around him. He wonât be able to scroll through in peace because, at some point, your activity will show up.
Reading your flirty comments to other peopleâs posts and their comments to yours will most probably make your ex jealous as hell.
10. Be nice to them and their friends
Letâs say that you canât avoid seeing them and/or their friends. What do you do?
If you want to achieve your goal, you have to act as if you donât care, as if youâve moved on, and as if youâre doing great.
Your overall attitude is advisable to be friendly. Why? Your ex expects you to do just the opposite.
They expect you to treat them badly, with anger and resentment. Moreover, they expect you NOT to keep it civil and lash out at them.
So⌠DONâT. You have an ace up your sleeve and thatâs the element of surprise. Surprise them with a kind attitude, make small talk, and donât go into personal details.
Do the same with their friends and your common friends. Donât avoid meeting them. Otherwise, theyâll think youâre stuck at home, pining for him or her.
11. Become a more upbeat person
How dedicated are you to making your ex jealous? If you want to make an extra effort, thereâs something you could do: Become a more upbeat person.
What does this really mean? Among others, it means toâŚ
⌠have a positive way of thinking.
⌠adopt more healthy habits.
⌠donât sweat over the small things.
⌠practice gratitude and appreciate the good.
If you manage to do all of the above, he or she wonât believe how much youâve changed. Theyâll feel compelled to ask themselves how you did it⌠Jealous much?
12. Subtly flirt with others when they see you
What if you end up together in the same room/at the same party?
If this happens, thatâs an amazing opportunity. Theyâll feel how jealousy creeps in when theyâll see you enjoying yourself, having the time of your life, laughing, and flirting with others.
Thatâs when theyâll reconsider the breakup and feel as if theyâve lost an irreplaceable partner. Thatâs also when theyâll feel insecure and a lot less attractive than anyone else there.
Belittling feelings will overwhelm them to the point when theyâll either leave, make a scene, beg for your forgiveness, or theyâll do something completely surprising.
You never know what will happen until it happens.
Should you make your ex jealous?
Personally, I think that hurting a person just for the sake of hurting them is a shallow and pointless thing. Even if they messed up badly with you and made you feel miserable, theyâre still not worth the effort.
Just because you make their heart sting a little, it doesnât mean your pain gets less intense. However, if itâs part of some elaborate plan to get them back, I encourage it.
If you do it out of love and to teach them a lesson, striking someone with jealousy is not that bad.
Especially if itâs meant to make them realize their mistakes, such a strategy is not completely unethical. Sometimes, we have to learn things the hard way. But, the golden rule is to not get caught up in playing games for far too long.
Takeaway:
Making your jealous is possible. You just have to fake it until you make it!
Or, you can make a conscious decision to improve your life and yourself for your own happiness (not just to make your ex jealous).
Either way, if you try the steps above, your success is guaranteed!
What will you do next, though? Letâs say theyâre a bit jealous, so what now?
Make sure you have a plan for what happens after as well. Whatever you do, donât lose your upper hand!
