In this new tech-savvy era where even your grandmother has a phone full of selfies, you may find yourself spending much time on your favorite social media account(s). Whether it’s Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or Snapchat, the internet plays a huge part in how we share information and stay connected with family, friends and the world.
While these social outlets keep us laughing, thinking, liking and reposting, how you present yourself online is crucial to how others view you. And if you’re currently on the dating scene, that picture you just shared of Donald Trump’s face on a donkey’s behind could actually be hindering your dating life big time.
Your social media profile and online etiquette is a direct representation of who you are. You’d be surprised how easy it is for someone to misjudge your personality just by certain words you say, pictures you post, or even content you share.
So how do you know if your social media presence is attracting or repelling potential romantic mates? Good question. Here are 5 ways your social media presence may be keeping potential “bae” at bay.
1. Negative political talk
With election time right around the corner, it’s fine to celebrate or share news about your favorite political party. However, it’s not fine to sit around trashing political parties you don’t agree with, or telling people with different beliefs that they are idiots. The key is to express yourself without being disrespectful to others. Being negative only makes you look like a jerk, and that perfect girl or guy for you may be unfollowing or unfriending you as you read this.
2. Photos with your ex
This should go without saying, but I unfortunately have to say it. The quickest way to send the message “I’m not available” or “I’m not over my ex” is if you have a bunch of photos with you kissing and rubbing all over someone on your social media timeline. I’m not saying to get rid of the photos altogether, because hey, your ex was probably pretty cool. Before deleting them from your social media, place the photos in a computer file for safekeeping if you like. If you want someone new to come in, you definitely have to make room for them.
3. Posting too many times a day
Updating your Facebook status every 5 minutes or tweeting so much on Twitter that you land in the inevitable Twitter jail (yes, it still exists)sends the message that you’re either super bored in your life or super addicted to social media. Too much online activity can be a huge turnoff because you still have a life offline, right? Right. Go read a book, go for a bike ride, or just relax and meditate. You might find that instead of sharing fleeting thoughts online, you might just need to disconnect and chill.
4. Social game updates
At some point, that cute guy or girl on your timeline thought you had a great smile in your profile pic, but since all you do is alert them that you just scored 1,000 points and a pig on Farmville, they regret ever accepting your friend request. There’s totally nothing wrong with playing games on social media, but sharing your stats on your wall may make your profile look like it’s been hacked. And let’s face it, sending game invites and scored notifications can be a bit on the corny side. Adjust your notification settings and raise that pig!
5. Party photos
A photo of you clinking drinks with a friend at a classy new bar is just fine, but a pic of you smashing a beer can on your forehead might not scream that you’re a great catch. A great person to invite to a kegger, yes, but great catch? N-O. When you’re single and ready to mingle, constant pictures of you going wild at parties can scare people away from wanting to date. Remembering that there’s a huge difference between being the life of the party and a party animal is a major key when it comes to finding your permanent dance partner in life.
Written by Tia Scott, Relationup Staff Writer