We have all been there. We date someone, and cannot keep our hands off of them. We want to be with them all the time, and when it comes to sex, we are having it more times than possible in a day. Then after a while, real life kicks in and we suddenly don’t have the time or energy to even think about sex.
Here are three things to keep in mind to maintain intimacy, and keep your sex life going strong, instead of going, going, gone…
1. Communication is more important than sex
Communication is the key to a relationship; don’t expect your partner to “just know” what is going on in your life. Being open about events outside of your relationship, and your inner emotional life helps your partner understand why you might not be so “sexual” with him/her. It is easy for your partner to think that you are upset with him/her, and feel rejected. It is important to acknowledge the fact that you are aware that sex hasn’t been the same, and that you still love your partner.
2. Make time:
Schedule sex just the way you’d schedule homework, reports, and meetings. You make time for all the things that need to be done, so have this on your “to do” list. This doesn’t have to be like a chore; it is just a nice reminder to make time for your relationship. After a long day at work or school, it will be something nice to look forward to. Go home, shower, and dive in! You might surprise your partner in many ways.
3. Quality of time is more important than quantity of time.
It is not about how long you two spend together, but more importantly what you do with your time. If you both are home doing things together, put your phones and computers away and just be with one another. Time is precious. Time spent together is a chance to become more intimate. Go to the beach, read a magazine together, cook, take a walk outside, or even explore each other’s body parts. A soothing foot massage can be a connecting thing. Just be in the moment. The quality of time spent together creates intimate moments, which allows you feel close to one another, and feeling close – well, allows magical things happen. 🙂